I am new to the forum and to be honest I’m just needing to hear some success stories of how women have got through separation. My husband and I recently separated, I am looking for a place to rent in a very expensive area of our city which is where the marital home is and where my daughter’s school is.
I am beside myself with money worries, my husband has a good income and I have always been a low earner , although what I have earned I have contributed to the joint finances ( for my own sense of self respect) and unlike his my contributions have not been quantified. I took 6 months off after having a child 8 years ago as I needed to get back to work as I am quite an ambitious work focused person however I found it very difficult to get professional level work because of the effects of the recession.
I have just completed a masters and am looking at developing my confidence through a returners programme so to cut a long story short at the moment I am not earning.
I feel desperate and I know that this desperation could drive me to make poor choices i.e. to take on a grotty flat because it is cheap (my husband is paying for half of the rent). I have no intention of taking on something that is too expensive, I’m good with money but I feel that I have lived hand to mouth since my daughter was born despite us having a healthy income, my husband stresses about money too and I have always felt ‘less’ because I have been financially dependent on him.