Hi all,
I am new here and would like a bit of advice.
i moved into my partners house (he owns it) with my 2 children, 9&12, 18 months ago. I pay 500pm to him which is half the bills, I also buy food and contribute extra to cover my children’s food. Prior to moving in with him I received tax credits as a single parent only earning 300 per week. I work every day school hours and work hard for everything. The children’s dad gives me 60pw for both children but unfortunately it is irregular and not something I can depend on. I spend a reasonable amount on the children, ensuring that they always have nice things and go to clubs etc.
I have recently had a baby with my new partner and I’m now receiving statutory maternity pay which is around 140 per week. My partner said when I was pregnant that he doesn’t want to have to support my other 2 children whilst I’m on mat leave and that I would need to think of a way to earn some extra£!!??? I managed to put some money aside so I can continue to pay half towards the bills and food and pay for my other children but I can’t help feeling that this is unfair. Partner is off work at the moment due to covid but he is financially stable with savings and a well paid job when he goes back to work. I will be taking on 90% of care for baby including all night feeds but will still be paying half. I could suggest reducing my monthly bill contribution but I feel that he’d use it against me- he often reminds me that we live in his house which makes me feel unsettled.
I was just wondering how other parents cope financially without receiving benefits whilst living with new partner.
thanks for reading x