Hi I’ve joined this recently as I am a young single working mum and the pressures and stress has got too much for me. My little boys dad hasn’t spoken to me since I told him I was pregnant (son is 13 months old) and told me he didn’t want anything to do with us if I dont get rid of him. I chose to go at it alone but am now feeling super stressed and don’t know how other single parents do it? Does it get easier because I can’t sleep and my confidence and self esteem is at an all time low. I’m under performing at work and everything stresses me out.
Hi ambelle, it’s hard I Havant been doing it as long as others, and I have diftent things going on, than you. But like you my self esteem is at an all time low, I feel guilty for the brake down of my marriage even though my ex is the one to have an affair because of the effect that it’s having on my eldest. At the moment I get one night off a fortnight. And the adult that I speak to most is my ex.
i know however that I’m a good dad and while I might not be perfect I am trying so hard for my kids. And isn’t that what it’s all about? Yes it can be stressful keeping on top of everything and it can be a thankless job, but know in your heart that you are doing everything you can to give your daughter the best that you can provide. Know that you are strong enough to do it alone and that couples struggle just as much. When it feels hard hug your son. When he dose something new or amazing know that he achieved that becouse of you.
I find it helps me when things get tough to know that my kids need me and I focus on there needs not me.
i hope this helps a little and that others can help you more.
Hey, I am in exactly the same position as you and currently have a lovely boy who is now 3 months old. Some days are so hard and lonely whereas others I couldn’t be happier. I am always around for a chat! Plus I am a young mum too!! It’s hard to find someone to relate to at times. X
How we do it I don’t know. Bringing up kids is damn hard but when you are doing it alone is mega tough. I recently moved out of my mum’s so am adapting to being a Mum and having my own place. Have to say its stressful and gets to me but really thinking about it I’m doing a fab job
Keeping busy is key and it’s not as of we get much chill time but I now have one evening a week as my Mum has my son, took me till he’s 10 and half but I’m ok with him staying over and me taking a well deserved night off