Feeling really overwhelmed and low
21 March 2020 at 10:46 pm #38135
Hi, I’ve got an illness where I get very fatigued and in pain unable to walk move about some days and get so fatigued and weak I need to rest in bed. Iv has my illness for Many years now. I feel scared and overwhelmed and very low. Iv got a 12 year old and 10 year old, them being at school allowed me to rest so most days I could get the energy to be able to manage in the evenings with them. I’m scared as now I don’t know how I’ll manage how I’ll be able to be do everything I’v got to do during the day like schooling them. Iv also had depression due to partly my illness but also coming out of a bad relationship I felt like I was starting to improve I was starting to think of ways I would get some kind of life for myself and started to see friends or get out side but due to my illness I need to self isolate for 12 weeks and I just don’t know how I’ll manage ive been crying today and yesterday and getting very irritable, feeling overwhelmed. I just don’t know how I’m going to do all this and joined this site in hope someone can help or point me to any places that could. Thanks for your time.21 March 2020 at 11:53 pm #38136
I’m really sorry to hear you are feeling overwhelmed. I think it’s a huge shock for us all to suddenly have children at home all the time. Non of us ever expected to deal with a situation like this and being a single parent makes it an even tougher time. Supportive measures are gradually being announced on a daily basis and I suspect that the struggles single parents are currently facing will eventually be addressed though it’s not been mentioned yet. It’s such an uncertain time at the moment whilst the government figure everything out. Are either of your children registered as your carers with your local carers support charity? They can offer respite and activities for carers (even young carers) which will in turn offer you some quiet time. Also getting in touch with your local council to see if you qualify for dom care, so at least on days when you are fatigued they can do some simple tasks for you? Just a couple of ideas but appreciate you may well have already looked into this xx22 March 2020 at 2:11 pm #38150
hi thanks for that I have looked at these but my children don’t want to go to anything and if have the problem of getting them there.
mum not quite sure what things to put in place in the day for my son who’s 9, his education and also how to plan the day to get rest periods. I think I’m just so worried my depression will get worse due to the isolation
thanks for your time and advice xx22 March 2020 at 10:44 pm #38167
I’m afraid I don’t have any really constructive advice for you, but just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone in feeling pretty low and helpless at the moment. I wouldn’t mind betting that a lot of single parents are feeling particularly low/overwhelmed at the moment while we are quarantined with our children and distanced from our usual support networks.
I am a single mum to a 3 and 6 year old. Before the coronavirus outbreak I relied heavily on my parents for childcare while working, and for day-to-day support. Now, that is obviously not an option (particularly as they are both in their 70s), so I am feeling pretty overwhelmed right now. I have a partner, but he doesn’t live near me, and I’m struggling particularly with my three year old, who battles with me and has explosive meltdowns almost constantly it seems like.
(Anyone else feel like even finding 5 minutes to sit down with a cup of tea is a challenge most days??!)
Your situation sounds even more difficult Sarah, because you are also struggling with a debilitating illness… I wonder if your GP could offer any advice about support for you with that? Are your sons mature enough that they would understand if you explain that you need some rest during the day??
Sorry that I can’t be more helpful. I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. xx23 March 2020 at 10:26 am #38176
I’m sorry you are feeling like this. I will be sending you a private message with some signposting options.
Kind regards, Justine