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    Dustypink
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    Hi,

    Anyone else feeling a bit lonley, like not necessarily missing the ex, but more the dynamics of family life. Just not having another person to turn to, to laugh with, to cry with.

    I’m up for making new friendships and laughing a little more 😊

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    Redcherries79
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    Definitely. I’ve no friends or family & being in lockdown has just made everything worse.

    No I don’t miss him as such but just another person to talk to, could do with a cuddle too.

    It’s a horrible feeling being lonely.

    x

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    Dustypink
    Participant

    Agree 💯 redcherries79, a cuddle would be lovely!!

    I just wish we could bypass this horrible phase, and move on, ppl say it gets better in time, but does it? It’s all on us to make these decisions, witch is not necessarily all bad, it’s a good feeling making some decisions, but over all I would definitely rather be part of a couple x

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    Redcherries79
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    It’s like a feeling of loss, thinking how is should have been, the things you should be doing & would have done together.

    Why couldn’t they just love, look after, respect & want to be a happy loving couple & family?!

    The hardest bit is thinking of one day having to meet someone else, starting all over again, & at 41 that seems somewhat impossible, especially with children.

    Just feel a bit empty? x

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    Arri
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    Am very happy not to be in the relationship I was in with my sons father. During lockdown, it would have been worse than the loneliness of single parentdom.

    But having moved since the split, feel sad that just as we were starting to establish new friendships and new community, but have been plunged back into isolation with lockdown.

    Definitely could do with some laughs.

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    Dorota
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    I know exactly what you mean, Dustypink. It’s the lack of the other person that I’m used to, it’s the mourning for the future that will never happen. As much as i felt lonely in my marriage, the fear of being forever alone now is much greater.

    Even establishing new contacts seems hopeless, not sure what is the point to this life anymore.

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    Foibaven
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    I’m so sorry to hear you all feel like this and I also sadly know how it feels. Lockdown is particularly hard being a single parent as no matter how wonderful our children are it’s important to be able to have adults to talk to and to just feel that someone has our back and we don’t have to make every decision for ourselves.

    Someone once said to me ‘there will be bright days ahead’ and I know that’s true even although it sometimes doesn’t feel like it. Dorota, I was particularly struck by your last sentence and really hope you’re feeling okay.

    I’m happy to have a chat with anyone in a DM if that would help – and together we will get through this – hugs xx

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    Dorota
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    I am feeling semi ok, Foibaven. Thank you. I know my last sentence sounds dramatic, but this is how i perceive world at the moment. Going through a lot of emotions, weekends are the worse. It’s hard to see positives when the last 14 years of life ended up in the trash. I know i have my sons to live for, my therapist calls it the protective factor 😉 It’s just hard. With shattered confidence and self esteem, i cannot see how to move forward. Some days are better than others, as i said weekend are just dreadful.

     

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    Bunnyhop
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    To anyone on this thread – do look into what local services are available to you. There may be local groups, there are online pen pal services and maybe even just reaching out to old friends on Facebook. For anyone who feels they may be suffering with depression or other mental health issues – your gps and other health services are still there to support you even with this pandemic. You would not be burdening them or wasting their time and it isnt trivial so please do phone and speak to your gp to get some help – there is help available to you.

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    Foibaven
    Participant

    Yes it is true that GPs are still available for support and don’t consider such issues as trivial.. even in these particularly difficult times. And I think with local groups.. Its about finding the right local group 😊

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    Sara1900
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    Feeling similar to other posts here. For the first time in a long time. I feel I don’t have enough friends that are in a similar position to me. Feeling lonely and isolated. Everyone I call have their own lives husband, partners etc. Realised this life is so hard, it’s similar to climbing a ladder then getting pushed back down, but how many times do you keep climbing the ladder. I have 3 children, one saying what’s the point in doing the work when teacher dismisses her work and has her favourites. I have one child with ADHD and the teacher keeps telling him he’s missed work. Lockdown has emphasised the fact my life is blaaahhh

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