Feeling lonely and fed up
18 February 2018 at 11:08 am #7744
My divorce only took 4 months as I could name the co-respondent too. The early days were awful I still struggle now with trusting people it’s a year today and I can still hear the awful things and remember exactly how he told me and I think what made it even harder was because I’d already forgiven and taken him back once again for an affair which I found out about when my youngest was only 7 months old. I feel as though now looking back was I just an idiot that accepted him walking all over me as he changed after that and it was never the same after it but I just carried on and then he left for the same thing. I do find myself thinking perhaps I deserve it and it was my fault because that’s all I’ve listened to off of him and his gf since.18 February 2018 at 11:33 am #7745
I didn’t realise it was quicker if you can name the other party.i know the name of the other person.18 February 2018 at 11:37 am #7746
Well I put in for mine in August last year and it came through in December and they named her and sent corespondence to her at every stage to sign and they both admitted it as they ask them if the evidence you supply in paperwork is true.
Have you started yours yet?18 February 2018 at 3:48 pm #7755
My ex is not with the bloke who she had the affair with because as soon as he knew i found out he said he wanted nothing to do with her as it was a bit of fun.so not sure if they will contact him.18 February 2018 at 5:04 pm #7758
I not sure if you can then you will probably have to do on 2 year separation now as been longer didn’t you say?18 February 2018 at 5:11 pm #7759
Yeah june 2014 but i have to give a reason for divorce when i looked online.so it will be adultery end of the day.18 February 2018 at 5:19 pm #7761
Just check the notes on filling it in as I think after 2 years that goes down as the reason see I didn’t leave mine as I thought to myself I’ve taken him back once never again so thought divorce is final so just did it.18 February 2018 at 6:01 pm #7765
I know exactly how you feel and seems like many of us are in the same boat here.
I am a single dad to my son 2. Sadly my daughter was stillborn in may last year so finding it very hard to cope with everything.
I moved to a new area a few years ago and met my ex partner and one friend. Life was great but long story short we had ups and downs and then we split up but we were taking things slow getting back together until I found out that my ex and my best friend were sleeping together so basically now I have nobody at all and being lonely is the worst feeling ever.
I guess that’s why I joined this site as it’s so hard having nobody to talk to or no conversation at all.
If anybody is in a similar situation or just anybody wants to talk then feel free to message me! It’d be appreciated
Billy18 February 2018 at 6:22 pm #7767
I had a lot to deal with as my ex left us with 30 grands worth of debt which nearly cost us our home and my mum passed away 2 weeks after the seperation.so i guess the divorce kind of got put back while i dealt with that and how my kids were feeling.i feel in a better place now to deal with it but still feel isolated when the kids are asleep.18 February 2018 at 9:57 pm #7779
I hate it when the kids go to bed too I’m not one for watching tv so find myself going up to bed at 9 and laying on here or fb. I think I was just so angry that he’d cheated in me again that I wanted him out of my life as quick as possible and didn’t want to relive the pain so did it while still raw18 February 2018 at 10:23 pm #7781
i haven’t seen my kids for three months. is death the only way out of this?19 February 2018 at 6:27 am #7790
I’m the same h as either looking on fb or whatsapping freinds.but none of them understand as not in our situation.19 February 2018 at 6:54 am #7794
I know i feel like people who I thought were my friends or there for me have distanced themselves from me it’s like they think you should have a time frame and not talk about it anymore after that my sister even said to me the other day let’s talk about something else your boring me now 🙁19 February 2018 at 7:57 am #7795
Yeah i’ve had that from family which is why i signed up to this group to chat to people in the same situation.19 February 2018 at 9:08 am #7797
Me too it’s amazing how many people have had exactly the same done too them aswell sometimes I read a post and I think omg I could have wrote that it’s just not fair. I can truthly say cheating is like the lowest of the low and is so hard to deal with and damaging i really struggling to get my head around how people can do it and still tell you they love you and act all innocent treat you like your the bad one when seperated from them my ex slanders me all over fb tells so many lies that I’ve been made to look like he had no choice his mum and dad look down there nose at me like I’m scum.