Feeling lonely

[sam2512]

hi everyone,

I’m finding things abit tough lately, I’m finding life very lonely, I’ve just spent the whole weekend indoors not speaking to anyone, my kids have been away at their fathers. I would love to go out but I haven’t many friends and they all have husbands and families. I’ve tried dating apps but to be honest it’s too difficult for me to have any kind of relationship being a Mum and running round for my girls.

Does anyone else feel the same? Sounds terrible when you see the adverts saying check on elderly neighbours who have no one to talk to…. I’m only 40!!! Lol 😞

[Mike_71]

Meetup.com

Awesome. I joined several groups, have been to dozens of events, made lots of new friends.

Free.

[Hope19]

Hi sam2512

Sorry to hear how you’re feeling. You’re definitely not alone! Weekends can be particularly tough when it seems like everyone is with their families. My kids don’t stay over with their dad but often spend Saturday with him.  I do have friends but struggle to find anyone to meet up with at weekends.

What area do you live in?

: )

 

[sam2512]

I’ve never heard of it I’ll have a look thank you

[sam2512]

Your right weekends are definitely the worst,  I only work part time at the moment so from one some days I don’t talk to anyone till the next day.

i have friends but never go out together really and that’s what I want to be able to do, meet friends for coffee or just go shopping but everyone always is too busy with their own lives

I live in Kent

[Mike_71]

I’ve never heard of it I’ll have a look thank you

Good luck. It’s difficult getting back on the horse and making new friends, and you do need to put yourself out a fair bit to achieve that, but it’s very possible.

[Hope19]

Hi!

You’re right about everyone always being too busy! I’m from Gloucestershire so bit of a way away! However, I was reading lots of posts yesterday and noticed several people based in Kent who were wanting to meet up.  Not sure how you find them – maybe put Kent into tags?! Hope you find people to meet with : )

[sam2512]

Ah that’s a shame, yes I’ll definitely have a look. I went to the gym tonight so I’m hoping if I go regularly I’ll get to know people as well as making me get out the house… I just want a couple of nights out lol

[Mariamazzy]

Hi sam i ve private mess u x

[Hope19]

Sport is a fab thing to get into😁 I swim twice a week & see the same faces every time which is quite nice. People are always very friendly. Slightly disconcerting when they’re chatting away to you stark naked but hey – guess I’m a little more self conscious!!!😂

I’ve joined a choir too which I’d highly recommend if you like singing – very therapeutic!

Have a good day 😁

[Anie]

I feel the same. Trying to keep busy on weekends I am on my own and plan ahead of time. All my friends are married or in relationships and with children. I am bereft at the loss of our family.

Frolo is a new app I have just joined which try’s to match you with others locally in similar circumstances.

[Turtlek8]

I feel very much the same – Ive been on my own for 4 and half years now and it doesnt seem to be getting any easier. My little boys father has has nothing to do with him for the past year as hes an alcoholic and Ive had that to deal with. So I have no free time at all. I feel very isolated. I have friends but never hear from them and they are all families….so I feel the odd one out. I have got to the point that I dont leave the house on a Friday…just go back to bed once Ive dropped my son off at school. Things are pretty rubbish…..you are not on your own.

 

[JPK1HT]

I’m going through a very similar experience, except I’m a separated Dad. I wasn’t expecting the loneliness to hit this hard, it’s really taken me by surprise. I try and stay positive and keep busy, but it’s always lingering. I’m based in Kent too, I don’t think there’s any groups but if there was I’d be interested.

[sam2512]

That’s brilliant, I’m going to try and make myself do a class tonight as the girls are away. I just talk myself out of things too it’s such a vicious circle, feeling tired so not exercising, being unhappy with all the weight I’ve put on 🤦🏻‍♀️ Then worrying about meeting new people, hopeless lol

[sam2512]

Your not wrong jpk1ht it really does!! I haven’t found any groups in Kent either, it’s hard because my children are older too

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