I’m struggling, me and my partner have split and he’s left. I’m 6 weeks and I’m terrified. I never thought I’d be doing this alone, I had a miscarriage back in December and fell pregnant again rather quick. I think all the stress has got on top of me and I’m struggling to maintain my emotions. So much is running through my head and now he’s gone I feel lost. He was my rock and now I’m falling apart. This is my first baby and something I’ve always wanted, a family. I just want him to come home but he rather choose being 2 hours away with his mates than supporting me through this. All I can do is cry to the point that I feel numb.
Sorry to hear you’re going through a tough time. I don’t know what to say to make things better and I know this might sound obvious but if you have family and friends please seek support from them. You don’t have to do this alone. When we’re down and we feel alone we often distance ourselves but it’s more the reason to stay in touch and reach out to loved ones. May you find the strength to get through this. You’re not alone.
Yes I am a man, but I have had the exact same feeloings as you some time ago. My wife was my rock, my soul mate, my best friend etc. We had a lovely family with 2 boys. All I ever wanted. There were no signs but just after she turned 40, she changed, she lied, she cheated, she became someone I could not recognise any longer. I went through 2 years of hell trying to keep my family together and then she left.
I was devestated, lost, anxious, clueless what to do and didnt know how I would get through it. The thing is, you do. You will have ups and downs. You will stuggle, there is no getting away from it but you will come out the other side. Everyone says time is a great healer… it is though.
I understand you have the pregnancy and birth etc to go through, which I obviously did not. What I did have though is finding a home, learning a routine and especially only getting to see my children 50% of the time.
Your child can be your strength. The love you will feel when they are born and watching them grow will give you the strength you need.
If there is no reconciliation on the cards, I suggest you make a list. Something you can tick off to show your self you are making progress. I always needed to see I had done something in the right direction for myself and my boys.
There are likely to be support groups near you. Maybe friends and family. Dont isolate yourself and dwell, that will be the worst thing.
Any advice I can give or if you just want a chat…..