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    Rox
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    Single mum working 5 days aweek would like to meet someone but I feel like I don’t have the time and what time I do have I need to spend with my son I also suffer with bad anxiety and on/off depression with makes it hard for me to speak to people

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    Empty
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    Do you belong to any single parent groups?

    #13086 Report

    Rox
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    I don’t I work 9-5.30 weekdays and the thought of being surrounded by people freaks me out I wish it didn’t.

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    Empty
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    So you need to build up a relationship with someone at a distance and trust they’re genuine… bit dodgy. No one at work or through work? I’d be wary of online stuff under the circumstances. What are your hobbies?

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    Rox
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    The people I work with are mostly older and I really want to keep my private life out of work I message them but haven’t added them on social media I need something that’s mine away from work if that’s makes sense.

    I like to read, I love films and through my son I’ve become a bit of a geek.

    #13091 Report

    Empty
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    How about a book reading group? You discuss the books, not you – but you get to slowly build up relationships.

    Where are your friends? You can’t be the only person you know with kids?

    How did you meet the child’s father?

    Not sure what geek means in this context but it doesn’t sound sociable!

    Tell us all a secret.

    #13092 Report

    Rox
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    I don’t have many friends but the ones I do have are married with kids or have moved away my life is family and work at the moment I want a social life and want to meet someone.

    I met my sons father through a friend we haven’t had contact with him since my son was born.

    My geek I mean I’m a big marvel fan and enjoy comic con.

    The book club idea is good could try searching for one in my area.

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    Rox
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    I’ve just tried looking for a Gingerbread support group near me and there isn’t one.

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    Being surrounded by people freaks you out but Comic Con is fine? I think you’ll find lots of online clubs for comic fans. Fantasy stuff is of interest to you – you can bury yourself in a character. There are millions with the same interests, and many like you who will be cautious of taking the hero mask off. There will be dedicated book clubs for graphic novels / Marvel universe, etc. Like music, these likes and preferences branch off into both wider and more niche likes and preferences. I’ll bet you’ll find a local group that focuses on fantasy stuff you enjoy…?

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    Empty
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    Where are you based? (You can set up your own group too you know)

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    Rox
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    I’ve been to 2 small comic cons and I dressed up and had some family with me.

    I saw that but what would setting my own group up involve I don’t know if I could do it I think if there was a group like this with people that felt like me I could talk possibly not straight away maybe but I think it would help me.

    I tried to retake English at the college I was in a small group it wasn’t my favourite place to be but I wanted to do it I was doing well then there was a part of the course I needed to do to pass it was a group discussion I tried to stay but after two weeks of that I stopped going.

    I felt stupid for leaving but I just couldn’t do it the course was only 2 hrs a week that’s the only reason I stayed I just kept thinking I will be out of here soon.

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    Well, you’re quite chatty now. I assume you’re being honest. So what changes when someone is in the room listening to you?

    The dressing up seemed to work for you. I wonder what would have happened if you’d just lied in your group discussion. By which I mean, played a character, not yourself. “What did you think of Jude the Obscure?” “I thought it was great”, you know, that kind of lying.

    #13099 Report

    Rox
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    Chatting to someone on here is a lot less scary than face to face one person is less scary than a room of people and I’m just being honest

    #13101 Report

    Rox
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    I thought I could be honest and talk on here to people that might be feeling the same only my mum knows how I feel and understands other family members think its not OK to just feel OK and think I can change how I feel instantly.

    #13102 Report

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    I don’t know if how you feel is because of being a single parent. Other people who like the fun stuff you like might also feel the same as you for the same reasons.  If you want to meet people who feel like you do, go where they are. I mean it’s nice that you’re here and everything, and welcome. You apparently want a partner who accepts ‘you’, having a child is just a part of you. A wonderful part of you. I would find dressing up as a superhero in public pretty scary – more scary than a group discussion during an English class. Oh, I also have kids. You have passions and things you love and enjoy. Play to your strengths.

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