Feel so down
14 April 2019 at 3:15 pm #23510
I get to see my little boy every other week over the weekend, I look forward to it so much because with me working away during the week it’s the only time I get with him. His mother is very difficult but I try to make his time with me as fun as it can be so he enjoys it and will hopefully choose to see more of me as he gets older.
The problem is when Sunday evening comes around and it’s time to take him home i feel so down, i feel miserable, almost depressed. I know I won’t see him for another fortnight and I’m miserable until the day before I pick him back up.
I feel lonely and like I’m letting him down and I don’t know what I can do about it.
I know my post sounds very melodramatic but I want to stop feeling this way.14 April 2019 at 3:30 pm #23511
I’m the opposite way around than you as I’ve my son full time but one thing I do know that helped my ex was a regularly timed call each day mainly just before his bedtime, if he went to bed early I’d get him to call her. Regular contact even if it’s not physical is important for all parties esp the children.
Perhaps this is something you could work out with your ex?
Mark14 April 2019 at 3:32 pm #23512
It may be but he’s only 2, sorry I should have mentioned that.
She won’t allow me to call her phone to speak to him, she’s gone as far as banning me from dropping him off at her house.14 April 2019 at 3:38 pm #23513
Sorry to hear that, times will change though and I guess all you can do is try and build an amicable relationship with the mum, it may be difficult at times but in the long run it may mean that she relaxes her stance where your son is concerned.14 April 2019 at 3:54 pm #23514
I try to be as much as I can but some things she asks or demands is just unfair and I can’t agree to 🙁14 April 2019 at 6:16 pm #23523
You are describing exactly how I felt when I separated. All I can say is you are doing exactly as you should. The time is less but it becomes more precious as a result so focus on making the most of the time you spend together. As he gets older he will understand more and it will become easier. Just make sure in the time you spend with him you make damn sure he knows he is the apple of your heart and that you wish you could see him more. It does come down to that…demonstrating as much as you can in that time.
In the time when you don’t see him you have to keep busy…try not to spend too much time alone and focus on building your life back up again. Try to do things you can talk to him about when you see him and he asks what you’ve done.
Have you considered possibility of having him couple of nights midweek too if it’s practical? Offer to help with the school run?14 April 2019 at 6:20 pm #23524
Hi welshdad, thank you for your reply.
Unfortunately I live in South Yorkshire but work in North Wales during the week so as much as I’d like to have him midweek it’s just not a possibility which makes life harder and as he’s only 2 we haven’t yet got a school run to do.
I do make sure that when he’s here we do nothing but play, we go to the park anytime the weather permits or to the seaside if we can.
I just don’t have a lot of time to meet people, I live out of a hotel due to work so no friends or family around me.