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    Gingey28
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    After a week where it hasent been the best. Have things on my mind. I sit here on a Friday night thinking im useless at being Mum. Am i really doing the best i can.

    My mum has my son every wed and thurs night so ive just picked him up couple of hours ago and feel like im so tired and ive had a break. I even went out Wednesday night to the pub which was good but now the week has wiped me out. Its pretty much the same routine every week. Im bored of my job although the hours are ideal i just dont like what i actually do.

    Hope everyone is well, i just wanted to write how i feel and this is a good forum. I dont want to go on facebook to have everyone asking whats up lol

    #21982 Report

    Kathymumofone
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    Gingey, anyone on here who’s seen your posts, knows you’re a great mum. It sounds like you’ve got the pre -Easter blues. It’s cold, wet, grim outside, people are lacking sunshine, sick of the routine and being stuck inside in the evening. We need summer.

    can you have a quiet look around the job market, see if there is a better job out there? Or ask your boss if there’s a project you can get involved in that needs a bit more brain power.

    #21983 Report

    Gingey28
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    Hi kathy

    Thanks for your reply. I just cant shake the way i feel like its all too much for me on my own. My son has a sore bum as he has done nothing but poo about 3 times since brought him home, his bum is red again. I had to set an alarm for now  as i knew i couldn’t leave him all night as probably would have dirty nappy and i was right. Guess thats being a good mum hey.

    Just have a lot on my mind, personal family problem. Im quiet in work and i cant stand working on a checkout dealing with customers face to face every second. I canf3ask for anything else as i was training to be supervisor but dropped it all when became pregnant and said i wanted to go on till but since gone back feel i could be on a different section i hate tills but the days and hours are ideal. Weekends off, only 4 x4 hour shifts but i dont enjoy those 4 hours

    Yes im bored every evening being in watching tele on my own. When your situation is a single parent how do you keep the motivation. Especially dont want to be a rubbish mum for my son but im so tired even thought get all help i could ask for

    #22013 Report

    Kathymumofone
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    I know what you mean. It can start to feel like house arrest. I’m on my own almost every evening too. My son’s dad does 30 nights a year so I do the rest.

    i usually have a project on the go. So a mural for son’s bedroom or making blinds. Last autumn I noticed the local hedges were full of hazelnuts so I collected a load and made jars of toasted hazelnuts in honey in the evenings to sell at the school Xmas fair. I’d never done anything like that before so took a bit of practice. But interesting to learn.

    Now I’m trying to teach myself to play the ukulele ( is that spelt right?).  Just hope my son doesn’t see me as weird but I have to do something.

    If you work in a supermarket, could you try being a delivery driver? Quiet work but out and about. Would you like that? Good for fitness too.

    #22019 Report

    Gingey28
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    Its hard isnt it. I cant drasticallu change my life, i am not able to do much most nights but just dont do a lot when my mum has him. Fed up asking people to meet up, so called friends well no they make no effort at all. People use work as an excuse…well sorry but ya get time in the week i have worked full time. Im not being unfair some people in over a year have been using the same excuse so ive had enough of trying. Shouldn’t have to keep asking people

    I went out Wednesday to quiz night was ok but with work colleagues always someone has something to say and it transfers into work. I need a new social circle. I have to have structure and routine as it works. I keep the house tidy, i have full cupboards, i wash etc…all normal chores but is this all i can do for however many years.

    How do you feel when it seems all you do is stay in. Its good you have the Father but nights in a year isnt even 1 night a week really is it

    #22020 Report

    Gingey28
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    At the moment i cant complain at what days or hours i do. My manager has been good tbh with my rota. I dont want to ask to do anything else as i would have to change the hours and it may not be ideal with having my son. My mum has him while i work im lucky i dont want to mess it all around but it us highly mind numbing

    #22023 Report

    GirlFriday
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    Hi, sending some 🌞 Although I have a teenager I don’t go out much but have taken up reading the moment to fill the evenings, hoping to get out and walk once the clocks change & we have some lighter nights. Don’t know what I am gonna do when we get to my parents as I have spent so long packing, cleaning n tidying ready for house move to fill the spare time.. House hunting probably tho I am struggling with the fact I have to make this decision all by myself this time and live with it.. v scary!!

    #22025 Report

    Gingey28
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    Hi GirlFriday

    Thanks for the sun, how have we gone back to rubbish weather? Yes cant handle the winter me dark early, evenings seem longer.

    Are you moving house?

    #22028 Report

    GirlFriday
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    Hi Gingey28, glad you liked the sunshine, could do with some myself, have been looking today but everything seems so expensive! Yes moving out of marital house hoping end of week but solicitors still messing around 🤞!!

    #22030 Report

    Gingey28
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    Hi

    Aw i get you so you staying with parents for timebeing? It is expensive now isnt it. I privately rent. I moved out of my mums last may, was a rly awful flat we were in tho 9months of issues it really got me down. Thankfully a month ago today moved into our new house. We love it, as soon as i saw it i was like yes we will move there. Initially got knocked back but for one reason or another it was back available and i reapplied and yeah it paid off

    Hope something comes along. Will you buy or rent?

    #22032 Report

    BluebirdSue
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    Hi Gingey

    Hello I too am leading a similar life to yourself at the moment. I have a job I really don’t like and I’ve barely seen anyone this weekend as they are busy etc. I want to know what blissful company you work for that lets you do 4 hr shifts and no weekends 😀

    #22033 Report

    GirlFriday
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    Sorry, yes moving back with my parents whilst we look for somewhere.. Have seen 2 houses to go n look at but don’t want to jinx things want to be able to put in a cheeky offer with the lure of cash in the bank!! Mixed emotions at mo about leaving where I am it’s the house of my dreams & I know I will never be able to afford anything like it again I hope I know when we find the right place.. Have to try n stop myself going there 😕 Just feel v abandoned even now after all this time. My parents & my friends have been fab but the weekends are hard as I know they are all with their families. Deep breath!! Sometimes I almost wish I could work weekends too 😂😂 Don’t worry it passes quickly 😉

    #22037 Report

    Gingey28
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    Hi BluebirdSue

    Well when you put it like that it is bliss i guess. I am lucky in that respect and lately i have said to myself there is people who would bite my arm off for those shifts and hours so be grateful

    How many kids do you have?

    #22038 Report

    BluebirdSue
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    People tell me all the time they would kill for my shifts I do 5 hours a day same hours but I’m asked to do too much work.

    I have a 12 year old son who is like my best mate. 😀

    #22039 Report

    GirlFriday
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    I do 6 hour ones now 5 days, was 4 before Xmas but had to up so I can get a bigger mortgage tho it’s bizarre as now I don’t get any UC.. my youngest DD is coming up for 15 and eldest one who doesn’t live with us is somehow coming up to 20. That makes me feel old 😆

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