Feel like giving up
6 July 2021 at 9:54 am #56203
I’m newly separated (6 month) and in the early stages of divorce. My husband hasn’t wanted just me for years but I always forgave him and hoped he would change. A couple of months before Christmas he started drinking more and sleeping on the sofa but promised there was no one else. I naively believed him. Only 6 weeks after he left after me finding yet more messages to girls, he was in a relationship with someone I know. Things started to make sense that it had started before he left. I am struggling because it’s right on my door step and he was telling me he want to try again but clearly was just wanted back up in case it didn’t work out. His parents seemed to be devastated but now I have said I would never stop them seeing the children they seem to have forgotten about me going from texting several times a day to not even once a week and are planning on meeting her. Him and her are also looking at a house around the corner from me. I feel trapped. He uses the children as pawns. Talking to the ones he thinks he can get on side , ignoring the others and that hurts. How can I get through this.feel like giving up. Feel so alone.10 July 2021 at 5:35 pm #56379
I too am newly seperated (6 months) and my husband is living with his girlfriend and planning to get married. We haven’t even started divorce proceedings because he didn’t want to admitt adultery as he says he got with her after he moved out.
I completely understand your feelings and I’m so sorry. It is a horrible situation to be in. We haven’t just lost our husbands but family too and having to share our children with another woman. It’s soul destroying.
Please don’t give up. Peace surely will come our way soon. It can’t be difficult forever.
Sending you huge hugs.11 July 2021 at 5:04 pm #56392
My heart goes out to both of you. It is a truly horrible situation to be in. I am four years single now, two years divorced and feel better than I have in years ( I was with my ex for 20 years). The only advice I can offer may sound cliched… Trust your instincts, don’t get drawn into drama and take it one day at a time. But these all helped me immensely. Big hugs, don’t give up. Brighter days are definitely ahead.12 July 2021 at 3:06 pm #56407
Please don’t give up it will get better I promise you. Hold your head up high. Your kids need you.15 July 2021 at 7:00 pm #56571
I am feeling exactly the same. My husband told me in November 2020 that he no longer wants to be with me, has given me no reasons only that he is not happy and he doesn’t want to be married anymore. We are still living in the house together which is making my mood even worse. I have found out this week, he has been emotionally involved with someone since 2017 which by then my daughter wasn’t even 1. I questioned him about it at the time as I found emails on his phone and told me she was a friend. As I said he hasn’t even moved out and he is sitting in the same room talking to other woman on dating websites, he has now of back in contact with the woman from 2017 and telling her all about the problems in our marriage but not said anything to me. I feel devastated, so depressed, I am currently on holiday with my daughter and family but I feel miserable. I look into the future and see nothing. I feel like I am never going to get over this.