Myself and my ex partner split up after he became aggressive toward myself and our young baby. He was emotionally abusive toward myself and physically intimidating and threatening to myself and my baby. He wants to take legal action against me for access. Does anyone have any advice on this? How can I prove domestic abuse? It’s difficult to provide evidence of something I tried to hide from others.
2. The courts ALWAYS favour women over men (I’m a man and I think that’s unfair, but that’s how it is).
3. The average abuse statistics show that partners will accept 35 beatings before snapping and trying to get out of the situation. What you must make absolutely sure is that you mention this when the moment comes, i.e. when CAFCASS call you to make their report.
4. Think: did anyone ever get involved? Social services? Doctor? Friend you may have spoken to?
5. Ultimately you may not have to prove it, and he may at best be trialled with a period in a contact centre under a legal agreement. If there is any hint of bad behaviour this will be fed back.
I think you’ll be fine – don’t be scared by courts and all of that stuff. Family Law involves very little law. When he realises what he has to go thru to even get you into court he may back down.
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