It’s no coincidence that I chose today to post this question. My situation is fairly typical for this forum. 6 months ago, after 10 years together, my wife asked for a separation, I was in a very happy marriage as far as I knew. No-others involved (as far as I know). But my judgement has taken such a hammering that nothing would surprise me now.
Having never necessarily yearned for children, they are now pretty much my entire life. 2 boys, 3 and 5. In addition to the emotional connection with my life partner being severed I am dealing with the almost impossible situation of not being able to see them whenever I want, and the feeling that I have completely failed them.
I share them 50/50 with my wife who barely speaks to me. Sunday morning is when I drop them off. It’s the hardest part of the week. I can’t go back to my flat, so my routine is to just walk for the rest of the day until its an acceptable time to eat dinner and go to bed.
Not to generalise, but the “typical” situation on here seems to be the mother having the children the majority of the time, which I know has its own challenges. Are there any dads out there who, like me, would have the kids 100% of the time if that was possible? Anyone further down the line who is able to cope with this situation better?
Every ounce of joy I get from my kids is followed immediately by thoughts of what seems like an untenable future with no possibility of happiness.
Sending my best wishes to all Dad’s on here who are finding this day ****ing hard!!