I need some advice on family based arrangement for my daughter.
I have 9 months old baby and I separated from her father since I was 3 months pregnant. Before the break up he was unsure whether he was the father . We had a discussion that when she is born that he could do the DNA test. After the child was born,I requested him to DNA test but refused on numerous occasions and denied that he is not the father and will never be. I asked for someone I was involved in before conception and he was proven that he wasn’t the biological father of my daughter. I alerted my ex partner about it and requested him to DNA test but still refused and he was emotionally abusive and threatened me that if I enforce child maintenance that he would defend himself and fight me vigorously through Supreme court. He has never paid any support for my daughter. To cut the story short, I received a phone call from him stating that he wants us to meet and discuss way forward. Due to emotional abuse that I endured from him from Pregnancy until now I feel I don’t trust him.
I would kindly need some advice on how to go about it/agenda . I am meeting him next Friday.
I would be very grateful if someone could kindly advice.
A couple of thoughts – he can’t “fight you in the Supreme Court”. It’s simple, if you contact the CMS, you name him as father. He can contest that if he wishes by providing a dna sample. No further argument.
It depends how safe you feel about this meeting. I would arrange to meet somewhere public – a coffee shop or restaurant where there are other people. Choose somewhere they know you if you feel worried. Even ask someone you know to be at another table if it will give you confidence.
your ex may have had time to think, stopped panicking and wants to behave decently. Or not. But I think you need to hear what he has to say.