I have a little girl who is just over 2 years old, I want to be fair to her with the time she spends with her father but her father and I are finding it difficult to agree on what she can cope with at her age. She like most 2 year olds is very clingy towards me as I am her primary carer and he would like to take her away for up to 7 days at a time – which I feel is unacceptable.
He works away for 3 months solid and returns locally for 1 month at a time. Whilst he is away he FaceTimes her each week.
I don’t think there are any guidelines because children, parents and circumstances vary so much.
It makes sense to do things gradually so your daughter is relaxed and happy. If she does a few hours with her dad now, start to increase it.
Add an overnight and see how she copes. Be guided by her reaction I guess. Going straight to 7 nights away might be too much for her to begin with. If your ex hasn’t cared for her for a week, he might find it difficult too. You all need a chance to build up your confidence.