Ex-Wife Emotionally abusive
14 February 2020 at 1:21 pm #36684
Last year My ex wife wanted a divorce and to speed the process I have signed some lies as she had to justify the fact that divorce has to be done now.
We have 2 boys, one less than 6 and other less than 2. I left with nothing. Main focus is the children. No argument no stupid legal fees as at the end it’s all about the children. I did a lot to support them as much as I could. Then when I told the mum that I need to be disconnected emotionally from her, she has changed attitude. I told her that she can’t control me anymore and can’t decide all regarding her point of view.
Handover were quick. Children given back, basic hello and I am gone. No drama. But she didn’t liked it. She start making handover more and more difficult, request a third party to do it claiming panic attack when she see me (She never had one in 10 years, even breastfeed at my place…..). Then she stop communicating about important stuff about our children (school Health…) taking decision without communicating with me.
She keep trying to remove me from my children’s life, refuse to confirm holidays, reject request because it’s too short or…too far in time.
I give her a decent amount of money each month but when I ask her to bring clothes for the children according the weather, she reply that I have to buy what I need regardless I give childcare maintenance.
Even Xmas I didn’t see me children for Xmas day and Xmas eve and didn’t see may youngest between 22/12 until 02/1. She took them for 31/12 but refuse any handover the 01/01.
Her solicitor is an absolute garbage where the interest of the children is never mentioned. Mediation failed because my ex wife refuse to do anything she didn’t decide
I am lost about what to do. we have our first hearing soon about child arrangement agreement…I am scare as this country seems so backwards in term of seeing the situation towards the father, not making sure that child maintenance is spend on children etc etc etc. I have no solicitor, It’s obvious my oldest is affected by this situation where he can’t see his father as much as he should.
After what happened in December (she force again to have a third party, when I spend all 24/25 to get one for the 26/12, I saif I can have one for drop on but find one for the return she said no, and when all set she said too late I have plan…) I have decided to call the police for emotional abuse….will see14 February 2020 at 2:04 pm #36685
I really hope things sort themselves out for you. Have no idea why people play mind games.. Honestly how ignorant? You are better off with out her. I know your thoughts are with your kids and the difficult time bit at least court will sort this out.14 February 2020 at 2:18 pm #36686
What is worried is this has been raised to her solicitor, with example, fact hopping the solicitor will talk sense to her but no. Even worse.
Example for Xmas. I manage to send all gift at mum place as children were there. I never got confirmation of gift were received.
Solicitor send me this: “I have advise Mum to return the gift present to you as everybody knows that Santa Claus leaves presents in different places”
I was speechless with the tone and the words14 February 2020 at 2:30 pm #36687
The solicitor is representing your wife so what do you expect I had this all with my ex so dont let it get to you. Just keep evidence and record in note book14 February 2020 at 3:01 pm #36688
Thanks a lot.
I am naive to thought the solicitor will also talk sense to my ex wife.
She told me that it was inappropriate to ask my ex wife the menu for dinner on weekly basis to allow to offer a balance menu for my children the we…. full of non sense and I am struggle to understand why the children is not put as a main priorities by all parties. It’s not about me, her or solicitor. It’s about the children.14 February 2020 at 3:46 pm #36698
The solicitor just wants to he paid. They just take peoples money!!!!