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we have a baby whose 15 months old, he wants baby 4 nights and 4 days one week then 3 nights and 3 days the next and so on.
This seems a huge huge amount for a baby?
What do we think? I was thinking 2 nights 3 days better for baby until school age
How much contact does he have at the moment? Is he a hands-on, loving dad who wants to do everything? To move from nothing to 50% immediately is a lot.
Is that practical for him, will he rearrange work, or would he hand the child onto his mum?
I might be unfair but it could be that his priority is to avoid paying maintenance.
He has 1 night per week with an additional day on top every week.
he was hands on when it suited him.
I suspect if you went to court, they’d suggest access increased gradually up to 50:50. Arrangements are meant to be in the best interests of the child.
And although it’s a while away, you need to aim for a “normal” that makes school runs easy. Would your ex manage with 9am drop off and 3pm pickup?