Ex wants this :

[Kate1212Participant]

we have a baby whose 15 months old, he wants baby 4 nights and 4 days one week then 3 nights and 3 days the next and so on.

 

This seems a huge huge amount for a baby?

What do we think? I was thinking 2 nights 3 days better for baby until school age

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

How much contact does he have at the moment?  Is he a hands-on, loving dad who wants to do everything?  To move from nothing to 50% immediately is a lot.

Is that practical for him, will he rearrange work, or would he hand the child onto his mum?

I might be unfair but it could be that his priority is to avoid paying maintenance.

[Kate1212Participant]

He has 1 night per week with an additional day on top every week.

he was hands on when it suited him.

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

I suspect if you went to court, they’d suggest access increased gradually up to 50:50. Arrangements are meant to be in the best interests of the child.

And although it’s a while away, you need to aim for a “normal” that makes school runs easy.  Would your ex manage with 9am drop off and 3pm pickup?

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