Ex uses cocain advice on access please

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    GiraffeGreen
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    My ex has a big problem with Cocaine. I am at a stage where if he doesn’t agree to take a drug test then he cannot have unsupervised access to our 4.5 Yr old child. In past & even today I’ve allowed access at my house but I’m starting to feel uncomfortable and he is making passive aggressive comments to our child about me. This cannot continue. My question is, if he refuses or fails, (my yet to suggest) drug test and as I’m no longer happy with him being at my home,  where do I go?  I want him & our child to have a relationship but he is not in the right heads space to put our child first and I need to safeguard. Do I just tell him to then arrange a contact centre or do I need to take steps such as family Court? Or are there other options? A friend or family member supervising is not an option unfortunately, he has excluded too many people from his life and I would not want to put this stress on anyone. Thanks

    #9405 Report

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    You can’t take him to court without trying mediation first. So try that. If he refuses then you need to get a MIAM through mediation on your own and you can apply to court for access arrangements. You will also need to do a Parenting Plan. Just try mediation first and if it doesn’t work out, PM me and I’ll help guide you through the rest.

    #9406 Report

    Faith
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    It sounds like contact really needs to be supervised at a contact centre. Hopefully he will agree to the drug test and supervised contact in mediation. Maybe once he addresses his addiction and goes through treatment (detox/rehab etc), then unsupervised could be considered.

    #9409 Report

    GiraffeGreen
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    Thanks for advice. I have no idea where to start. I was advised to order drug tests online which I am waiting for delivery. Not taken any legal steps yet. How do i get mediation. Who do I contact?

    #9410 Report

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    Advice re: arrangements for children, mediation, going to court http://www.advicenow.org.uk

    Separation disputes: http://www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk

    Publicly funded mediation: http://find-legal-advice.justice.gov.uk

    You can easily do a Google for mediators in or near your area. Let me know if you need more advice.

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    GiraffeGreen
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    Thank you

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