Hi, this is my first post and don’t know how to fit everything into a short space. Basically, I left emotionally abusive relationship 3 months ago. We have a 20 month old son together (I also have 2 older children). Ex has hardly shown any interest in our son and threatens me not to go for child maintenance as things ‘will get nasty.’ He has the family home which we have paid for jointly but it’s in his name and I am left paying extortionate rent with nothing to show for it. He is using access to son as a way to control me by telling me he can’t commit to anything as he has to ‘take care of his own well being’ and when he does have him he picks him up just in time for bed and drops him back before lunch so he doesn’t have to feed him – I’ve even had to send food a couple of times. Things have gotten out of control as I was supposed to go out eith friends tomorrow and he’s caused murder over it as he is convinced I’m going on date. He told me at 10.30pm that he can’t have son now so I now can’t go out. How do I go about putting an end to this?
There is a lot more to this with control and games etc but so long winded to type – hold it makes sense as it is 😬
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