Hi, I’ve been separated from partner for 4 years now. He has our 2 children age 10 and 7 three nights a week.
All works out well and the kids are really well adjusted. Unfortunately for the past 2 years he has had a new partner. They are always wanting to go on holidays together. I try to accommodate when I can but am getting a little resentful as it means him expecting me to juggle my days at work (I work all my hours around when I have the kids so when they are with him on a Monday I work a very long day).
What I cannot stand is the fact that he shouts at me and demands that I do this for him. In front of the kids too. He then bad mouthes me to the kids.
I never ask him to have the kids extra than his 3 nights a week, if I want a holiday I may have a 2 or 3 night break on the nights they are with him.
I know we need to sit down and work it out when the kids aren’t around, in all honesty though he still scares me and I don’t want to be in a room alone with him discussing something he gets very agitated about. I know there’s mediation but I can’t afford it!
The kids are getting upset now and I think they are starting to realise he is putting his partner as a priority over them which is heart breaking to see.
Sorry for the long rant! Any advice gratefully received!
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