My ex and I amicably split up 8 years ago and I have had 50% access to our son. I pay her maintenance on a monthly basis but still buy a majority of his clothes, pay for and take him to all his out of school activities and take him for haircuts and dentist appointments etc. She sent me a text message yesterday saying that my son and her have decided that he will now stay with her for an extra day each week as she misses him! This now means that over a 4 week period he is with me for 10 nights and with her for 18 nights. He is 12 years old so if this is his decision then I just have to accept it. However I have heard her speak to him whilst he’s with me telling him how much she and their dog are both missing him. I’ve also read messages on his phone from her saying similar things. I have a brilliant relationship with my son but feel like she is manipulating him and trying (succeeding) to make him feel sorry for her. I’m not sure what to do but have suggested to my ex that we sit down and discuss the many issues we have. Any advice would be really helpful as I feel like she is taking advantage of me financially and trying to restrict my access to my son.
Thank you for posting on our forum. It sounds like you would benefit from advice around changes to contact. You can always contact the Child Law Advice service for information. As you have recently had 50% shared access to your son you can always call our single parent helpline too. Our advisers will be able to help you to explore your options.
• Child Law advice service https://childlawadvice.org.uk/ – they again provide legal advice on family law issues related to children and a helpline staffed by legal specialists 0300 330 5480
• Gingerbread Single Parent Helpline – Freephone 0808 802 0925
Opening hours: Mon 10 – 6, Tues 10- 4, Wed 10 – 1 & 5 – 7, Thurs 10 – 4, Fri 10 – 4 They can be busy so callers can expect to wait up to 20 minutes before the call is answered.