Hi there, I separated with my ex when I was 4 months pregnant. I knew something wasn’t right and that he just wasn’t the guy for me, but I always believed he was a good man and would be a great dad. So we agreed to stay friends and he has been so very involved- messaging me daily to ask about the baby and how I am, offering to help me with any jobs I need doing and generally appearing to be being very supportive.
I was then contacted 5 days ago by a woman who it turns out is not only his new girlfriend but was actually already seeing him on and off when we were together. She was apparently mortified to find out about me and our unborn child. He’s obviously desperately scrambling to rescue that relationship and has sent me a cold message saying he wants nothing to do with me or the baby and to leave him off the birth certificate. He’s then blocked me from every form of contact.
it just makes no sense to me at all.
i am a 35 year old professional woman and I have great family support so I know that practically I will be fine. But I just feel so devastated and emotional and I’m struggling to feel positive at all. I’m 31 weeks now and clearly need to pull myself together for the sake of my unborn son but I’m feeling in such turmoil- heartbroken at the level of deceit I have encountered and the rejection I feel on behalf of my son, but also struggling to think positively about my future. I really thought we would co-parent amicably.
any words of wisdom?