Hi all I’m after some advice. So my soon to be ex husband walked out on us out of the blue about 4 weeks ago. Children still don’t know.
He has previously worked away a few nights a week during which he’s never checked in with the children/phone or videocam.
Hes since been seeing the children 1 night for tea a week and 1 over night. Which is essentially he collects them at 4.30 till the following lunch time. As he’s always in a rush to bring them back. I find my self continuously saying spend time with your children when he has them. He does on odd occasion call them at 7 just as they’re going to bed. Which doesn’t really work but I’m going with it as I don’t want to cause a scene. Anyway he’s said to my eldest 5 (5 and 3) that he can start to video call him before bed.
Im just not comfortable with it. I have explained this to him, and I’ve said that he’s never done it before even when he lived with us. I said I don’t know who’s looking over his shoulder at the kids/ around the house etc. I’m still trying to get into my new rountine as a single mom with 2 young kids! I also said how will that work when we eventually (if ever!) have new partners around the house.
What are your thoughts on it? Would you let them video call? Or just stick to how it is at the moment? I don’t want to start something I’m unable to stop.