Ex husband not sticking to court order

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    Cut a very long story short. Been divorced for 5 years ex husband didn’t bother to see the children for a full year and then he decided to get a court order. Basically to exert his authority because he has never bothered to stick to it & he is always wanting to change it.

    Both the children who are 10 and 7 absolutely hate going because he doesn’t interact with them doesn’t play with them and barely talks to them and just sits playing on the PlayStation.

    Yet again he has sent a list of dates that he is unable to have the children. Bear in mind he only sees them once a fortnight as it is, although he should be having them for tea on the interim week but he’s s never bothered to do this.

    Basically I’ve had enough now as the kids are stressed out when they have to go & hate going and he’s constantly changing the goalposts so there is zero consistency.

    Can I go back to court with all this information and try to get something amended or even cancelled because it’s not fair on the children that they are put through this at their age to A. do something they don’t like doing and B. Not know what’s happening from one weekend to the next


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    Hi Juppy,

    This is awful for your kids 😔 personally I’d take him back to court.

    This organisation can help:

    ‘Rights of women 020 7251 6577 We are a women’s charity working in a number of ways to help women through the law. Our vital services aim to provide women with the legal advice and information they need to understand and use the law and their legal rights.’


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    As you know in your heart of hearts, you could have gone back to court instantly in order to approach the fact that he is not sticking to the court order. You are being a very strong lioness sticking it out for as long as you have. You gave the situation a chance but it is progressively getting worse.

    Little thought for the mind:

    Reoccurring Abandonment…

    Another time-related consideration associated with the issue of child abandonment and custody is a custodial parent who routinely leaves the child for short and yet indefinite periods of time, without a valid reason. Although the custodial parent may leave the child for less than a day at a time, the cumulative amount of time and effect in the court’s mind may warrant a change of custody. legalbeagle.com

    You stated that your ex-partner did not have contact for an entire year. I am no solicitor but across different countries in the world child abandonment is considered to be anywhere from 24hrs – 1 year. It is also a crime and am very shocked that dad managed to keep most of his rights yet still continues to abuse them. I say go with what you feel is right because you evidently tried to meet him in the middle




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    Gingerbread Dan

    Hi Juppy, there has been some great advice here. Just to let you know, you can also call Gingerbread’s free helpline, where our expert advisers can offer advice on a range of issues. The number is 0808 802 0925 and the opening hours are: Monday 10am-6pm, Tuesday, Thursday & Friday 10am-4pm, Wednesday 10am-1pm & 5pm-7pm.

    Kind regards,

    Gingerbread Dan

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