ex doesn’t want to send youngest son to same school as oldest son

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    Hello so me and my youngest sons dad have been split up since I was pregnant and he’s now 1 years old (just), his dad wants 50/50 which I have agreed to once he’s turned 18 months old, but one big thing we cant agree on (even though I know its not happening for a long time) is what school we will send him to. I have an older son who’s father has never been involved and when it comes to sending my youngest to school  I obviously want him to go to the same school as his big brother but he’s pretty much refusing saying he has the right to choose his as well, which yes I understand he does but its not that simple as obviously I cannot be at 2 schools at once for drop offs and pick ups and why shouldn’t the boys get to be at the same school, they already wont see each other at home 3-4 days a week and he doesn’t even want them to see each other at school yet he wants his future children with his gf to go to same school as my youngest in the future which I just think is cruel to my oldest son (who is currently 4), he said its fine I can send my oldest to breakfast/afterschool club but why should the boys have to have longer days because of him as they are already at school 6.5 hours. I cant send him to a school in his catchment as him and his girlfriend are planning on moving an hour away from me and that will really be impossible for me and I know that if he tries to apply for schools nearer to me but not in my catchment area and without a sibling there he wont have a high chance of getting in but obviously has a higher chance at his brothers school because he has a sibling there ( 10 min drive from mine but not in my catchment I don’t think) and if he doesn’t get into a school he wants and misses out on getting into my sons school it will but us in an impossible situation and I refuse to send him to one closer to his home as like I said will be impossible for me to get to as well as taking my oldest to his school. Its an excellent school my son absolutely loves it and is doing so well, so there’s no good reason not to send him there, he says he wants the best school for his son, but he needs to realise all children learn at different paces and have different abilities and teachers go by what they do as an individual, I just feel like he’s really going to fight against me with this, any advice would be really appreciated, like I said I know its a couple years before we apply but its causing me so much stress. I know he could take me to court over it but what’s the likely hood a judge will side with me over him? thankyou and sorry for the long post

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    A judge would take your side . You have a son at school , so unless a damning good reason not to your youngest son would go to same school as your older one. Like you say how you supposed to drop offs and pick ups . I would however not bother engaging further about it as like you say its in 3 years time.

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    Hi Huntygirl1995

    I’m Michelle one of the Moderators here.  It’s good to see you posting in the forum.  The Child Law Service might be able to guide you in exploring your options in the situation that you’ve described.  Here are their details below:

    Child Law Advice Service https://childlawadvice.org.uk/ – they provide legal advice on family law issues related to children and a helpline staffed by legal specialists 0300 330 5480

    I hope that helps

    Kind regards


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