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    So I’ll try and keep it as short as possible, me and my ex split up in November but we’ve been back and forward with eachother.

    Until a couple of months ago we made a break and it was working really, we have a daughter so have to have contact still, we get on great. But last week we a drink and I ended up staying in her bed, we didn’t kiss or have sex but did cuddle all night. Then Saturday I helped build a summer house for our daughter at my ex’s which was a fantastic day. When I went to leave she followed my to my van and ask for a cuddle, I went back in and we spoke about taking things slow, but I feel she has now retreated again. She does have the tendency to back off when we get slightly close again. I just don’t know what to think about the situation. Any advice?

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    Hi Andy0923,

    My wife who left us in June is doing just that, giving me mixed messages, even my 13yr old daughter said that! I don’t want to go into it but my wife has suffered with her mental health over the years, maybe this is a medical condition your ex partner may have?

    we’re still married (26yrs) but looks likely coming to an end. she lost her mum the year we got married, I lost my dad in 2017 and from then things got worse for us, I’ve had therapy and that’s helped me so so much. I’m not much of a book worm, but I was told to read The Chimp Paradox, by Professor Steve Peters, it has changed my life and maybe one reason my wife has left me (I worked out that I was trying to keep everyone around me happy, apart from me!!) this book has literally changed my life, for the better.

    Take care



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    I think she’s not sure about the split. My ex was 100% definite let’s do it no relapses. Is it fixable? if that’s what you want to do? The kids are a tie but that can be just friendship with the ex.. Your situation sounds different.

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