10 February 2019 at 5:56 pm #20879
i split with my kids dad early last year and ended up in a relationship with a guy from work who was there for me through a tough time (I got beat up by my kids dad) after 8 months of being with this new guy (and the day after New Year’s Day) he split up with me saying life with me was boring and he couldn’t cope with my kids being there etc. I feel like I’m an emotional wreck at the moment and feel completely alone. My eldest now won’t poo (he’s 6) and is choosing to poo himself (dr says it’s his way of controlling things) he’s now having therapy through school. All my friends are having babies and I feel so trapped and like everyone is enjoying life whilst I’m in this downward spiral. It’s espe hard when my kids go to their dads twice a week so I’m conpletely alone. Has anyone else felt this rubbish or is it just me?10 February 2019 at 9:17 pm #20891
Sorry to hear you are feeling this way, let it bring comfort to you that you are most definitely not alone!! Although out situations are different I can completely relate to how you are feeling. I also have 2 children and am doing it on my own, everyone around me is getting married and having babies, and i can’t help but feel miserable! It’s not easy and not sure what I can say to help but want you to know you can message me anytime for a vent as I have an idea how you’re feeling 🙂10 February 2019 at 9:49 pm #20895
Hi, Sorry you’re feeling this way, and thanks for being brave enough to share. Every situation and ever person is different but you’ll find elements people can relate to on here and it’s a really supportive site.
The feeling of isolation I think is the worst part following any separation.
Stay strong, feel free to talk anytime. You’re going to be ok 😊10 February 2019 at 11:03 pm #20898
Thank you both for your kind replies. I keep going over things in my head over and over. I feel so lonely and such an idiot. As much as I’m trying to be positive for my kids I bottle things up throughout the day then when they go to sleep I cry myself to sleep. I feel like such a looser moaning on as I know people are in worse situations than me. It does mean a lot that you replied though. Thank you 😊12 February 2019 at 6:23 pm #21022
Hi im feeling very alone and i understand about the night time getting to sleep,my wife has gone to live with her mom and taken my 4 year old son with her.
We have both been under massive pressure looking after our son as we feel somthing is not right…exhaustion has done the damage….but now she is at her moms with my son…what is HURTING me SO MUCH is no comunication….alsmost every day she has been texting me….asking how i am/what im doing wich makes me happy…but now its been over a week since i herd from here…she was taking our son to the G.P were she lives to find out help for him,wich i am VERY happy about…but when i texted her and said i would like to come for a visit and go G.P with her she has gone silent for over a week now…
I love my son so much but this silence is breaking me apart…my situation is a bit different….but yep i FEEL RUBBISH….12 February 2019 at 6:56 pm #21023
I know it must be very hard to suddenly have no contact. That’s not helping your situation. Could you not contact your wife’s family if she has gone to live with them? Life can be tough sometimes can’t it. I feel like I’m up one minute down the next. I hope your son is ok and your wife gets in touch soon. For sleeping try lavender mist. Helped me a little. Doesn’t stop you overthinking things but takes the edge off. Hope that’s helped a bit.12 February 2019 at 8:52 pm #21029
Thanks for the pick me up…..i hope your situation gets better…your right life can be so cruel up one minute then down the next…
This Forum helps though…13 February 2019 at 2:37 am #21038
Sounds like you’re in an awful situation. I think the best you can do at the moment is try your best to be supportive to both of them, but also as Singlemumoftwo85 said about get in touch with the family. The more they realize you are trying to help the more receptive they’ll be especially if this is a transient situation where the two of you just need some space, and maybe even talk things through, as from what you put above it sounds like she’s just needing some space.
If it is a formal separation however you need to be strong and establish duration and time of contact – this is really important both for you and your child.
Especially if your child is unwell it’s important that you are involved in any important decisions regarding their health. There would have to be a really good reason specifically in the interests of the child’s safety and welfare for you not to, and in your situation I think it should be a case in the first instance get in touch with the family and let them know how you feel and failing that get legal advice and fight to see your child, breaking contact like that is not acceptable when you have someone’s child.
Your son is the important thing here… above all or anyone else.13 February 2019 at 8:37 pm #21080
Thanks for reply it was good to know people are out there to sharen things with…i have contacted her dad and sister on F.B but no reply and dont have there
mobile…they are just going by what my wife wants i guess..they havnt deleted me so im happy about that….been 2 weeks today i last saw my son…my family and close friends have said to get social services involved…but im very worried that when they contact her the future visits for me will be VERY HARD after i do that….and part of me thinks wait longer for here to get in touch…see she is living with her mother and i feel because this happend to her mother herself she is discouraging my wife in a nasty way…