Hi. My husband and I separated in November but until a month or so ago, it has remained amicable and uncomplicated, so much so we had a normal Christmas and he remained living at the house until January. My daughter is 2 and a half and until this week, hasn’t shown any signs of emotional upset. However, yesterday she was very upset all day and told me she felt ‘sad’, ‘upset’ and ‘lonely’ – a word that took me aback and I have never heard her say. Myself, family and her dad have always been very careful about what we say around her. Those are all things I feel, but yesterday she voiced. However much I want her to learn emotions and be open to voicing them to me, I’m concerned this has affected her way more than we estimated. I just wondered if anyone had any similar experiences or would know how best to deal with this? Thanks in advance!
Is there any indication that this was related to the split? As Anonymous says this could be a one off due to a bad day.
My 2nd child was a similar age when I split up with my ex, he found it difficult and struggled with his emotions (although as parents we didn’t handle the situation as well as you and your ex have) . I found that lots of attention but strict boundaries helped. His nursery teacher also did a one on one session with him once a week and they talked about feelings. I bought lots of books that showed different types of families & situations. Exploring emotions through play is good too.