Hello,
I know my ex was hurt by what he perceived to be my infidelity – although it was never anything physical & he was clearly doing similar (see previous post) – but I can’t believe the way he’s acting now & don’t know how to respond.
He’s moved in with another woman (mutual ‘friend’) & told our girls (11 & 7) they’re a couple only 7 weeks after leaving. He’s been having the girls overnight every Saturday, staying at his brother’s vacant house, apart from our wedding anniversary weekend when I took them away as it was too painful to be at home. Now he’s decided we agreed to move to having them alternate Saturdays from now – we didn’t! We agreed every Saturday night & Sunday daytime with him while we all adjusted, then possibly alternate full weekends later on but we would discuss this later.
He saw youngest for a couple of hours on Thursday, & when he dropped her off I said ‘See you Saturday’ – then he said we’d made this new arrangement of which I had no idea! He said he has plans, so I said if he has more important things to do than spend time with his children then obviously I’ll have them. He became furious and shouted at me then roared off in the car.
I immediately texted him the dates of all alternate Saturdays he was proposing for the remainder of the year & haven’t heard from him since.
I just don’t recognise the man I was in love with for 15 years (and still am) any more. I understand him wanting to hurt me, but why the girls?
He also won’t pay for his car insurance (named driver on policy in my name) & it will cost me a huge amount to cancel, so I’m stuck paying this on top of him having cut the money he gives me. He’s still giving me slightly over what the CMS say he should be for his basic salary, so I can’t really say anything at this stage, but it’s left me struggling. I just feel like he’s trying to punish me but can’t or won’t see it’s actually the children who are suffering.
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