domestic abuse: should I contact my child’s paternal grandparents???

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    Sofvig26
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    Hi,

    so I’m a single mum due to escaping domestic abuse when I was pregnant. I haven’t told anyone in his family that my little girl has been born, and I’m feeling a bit guilty because of it. I feel like maybe they should know of my daughter as they didn’t abuse me.

    However, none of them have contacted me, probably due to the fact I have a restraining order on the father of my child for a year, but I don’t know whether to at least contact his mum.

    Not only to say she has a granddaughter and that she’s healthy but to also tell her what really happened with her son, as I was banned from talking to her when I was with my ex and he happily let her think I was crazy.

    Is it just my guilt talking or should I contact her at the very least to let her know about her grandchild?

    What do you think?

     

    #24027 Report

    Hi there Sofvig26

    I’m glad you have reached out to the forum and I hope it isn’t too long before other parents are chatting and sharing their experiences with you.  In the meantime the National domestic violence helpline can be useful in managing situations after separating from domestic abuse.  Here are their contact details:
    National Domestic Violence helpline – for support with regards to historic abuse Freephone, 24-hour: 0808 2000 247 http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk

    I hope that helps.

    Take care, Justine

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    BluebirdSue
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    If you don’t feel comfortable telling her face to face you could write her a letter. You can then get down everything you want to say without fear of being argued with.

    Then the grandmother could see the letter in her own time. You won’t know how she will feel until she tells you.

    If you want to allow them to visit your child make sure its on YOUR terms. You’re her mother 😀

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