Divorced ex husband and thought we had agreed a childcare rota but he has now decided he wants to change it.
We had agreed alternate weekends plus one night mid week and half school holidays. He now says he wants 3 nights one week, 4 the next to include taking our son to school! I have told him that is far too much disruption and that he should always go to school from home rather than chopping and changing constantly but he won’t listen.
What can I do? It took forever to sort out the financial order as he is so slow and argumentative about everything, he is still in the period where he is allowed to stay in the house and should hopefully be going soon. I really dont want to start the entire process of arguing back and forth with him all over again when I know he can’t even do what he says he wants!
I currently get paid the child benefit. Who decides who gets what once he finally moves out? He wants shared custody and he’s adamant that this house won’t be our sons home and that he will have two homes moving forward.
He hasn’t contributed a penny towards sons food and clothing in almost a year now by the way. He refuses to pay me anything at all.
He is now telling me that he will be claiming child benefit and tax credits himself.
<div>I think your ex-partner is showing a keen interest to be an active father. If the new arrangement works, you will have more time to do more things for yourself and your life.</div>
<div>Sometimes you and your ex-partner have to trial new ideas to see if it works. Maybe you can try it, and see whats happens. Then you both know you have tried it.</div>
<div>Fathers’ Rights Advocates ‘Fathers4Justice (F4J) group campaign for 50:50 access to their children.</div>
<div>I hope that helps,</div>
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