Divorced but still need him in my life

[Lolly]

It’s a strange set up , divorced from a narcissist husband after 22 years . 2 teenagers living with me . Have a new guy now but the youdest refuses to see him or includes him . The ex comes in n out of our lives when he’s busy or not just turning up at the house . Which in fair I use his building skills to fix the odd jobs that crop up as the new guy can’t change a light bulb . Cant go on like this feel like I’m leading a secret double life just so I get my maintenance and knowing my daughter won t accept a new guy . Any advise please

[Greenfingers]

Im confused why you need your narcissistic ex husband to change a light bulb for you and what relevance this has to you receiving maintenance for the children? Surely these are separate issues.
If your daughters narcissist dad remains in and out of your home as he pleases and you remain secretive about your new partner then I’m not surprised she’s struggling to adapt.  In order to make your family work, I’d suggest you might need to think about changing the dynamics otherwise there’s likely to be fireworks and resentment

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