I’m after some advice. My ex has refused to give consent for divorce (two year separation) so now I’m stuck in a bit of limbo. Is it possible to contact the court to cancel or change the grounds of divorce to unreasonable behaviour as there was emotional and financial abuse during the marriage. I can’t really afford a solicitor as I’m a student nurse so money is tight.
My orher question is how much do tou tell you lids? Their dad hasn’t seen them in 5 months. We have had numerous mediation meetings in which he promises the earth and makes me look like the bad one. Then he disappears again. My eldest has autism and is struggling. She cannot cope with the lack of routine and the coming and going and is currently on a waiting list for play therapy. He doesn’t contact me and I have to hound him for maintenance every month. Do I refuse to let him have contact and try to arrange regular visits via a court? I have been very accommodating with him, driving them to him in Southampton (we are in Essex) and staying in hotels nearby, booking annual leave around him but still he can’t seem to be a permanent parent in their lives. I’m at the point now where school is involved because both children are suffering. How do I go about getting something official in place? I would also want supervised visits as he has no idea how to look after them (when he has had them they have come home in very dirty underwear and teeth etc)