After being with my husband since I was 17 and having 5 gorgeous daughters age 23 to 7, beating cancer and getting our marriage back on track after a 6 month split. I thought my life was complete I was so happy. But then during the second lockdown my husband began to change, drinking more, sleeping more, staying up late and being secretive. I was open with him telling him that I had noticed the change but he said there was nothing wrong. It was the boredom of lockdown. Then on boxing day we had a couple of drinks (he had more than a couple). He exploded and told me he was leaving to think. Over the next two month he said he didn’t know what he wanted until I cornered him and he told me never say never ( felt so special). Now I find out he is seeing a girl the total opposite of me we both know, only a couple of years older than our eldest. And now he has totally lost interest in our children, being abrupt with the elders ones and not bothering with the little ones. One of which is poorly and we’ve been to urgent care 3 times this week. He hadn’t even popped in to see her. I’m so disappointed and hurt for them. He always said family is everything.
You have been through so much.I’m at a loss how people like you go through so many difficult trials and tribulations and still sound so sane.I really admire you.Sorry,that wasn’t much use ,but just saying👍
You’ve been through so much, all you can do is take one day at a time. Nothing anyone says can really remove the pain and shock right now. Just getting through to the end of the week will be an achievement and I think there is nothing wrong with thinking like that and don’t go beyond the week in your mind as much as able.
I’m a huge advocate of counselling. I appreciate it isn’t easy to access and paid options may be online for a while. I suffered crisis after crisis and almost lost my life a few years ago due to a health crisis. I truly felt I would never feel happy and free of fear again, but I do now a few years later. I can’t recommend counselling highly enough. There is a huge amount for you to process after all this.
You absolutely can get through this and smile again even if it seems impossible right now.
Just remind yourself that you truly do not deserve to be treated like that by anyone. True love is not behaving like that no matter what the excuse.
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