Disabled mum – do I spilt?

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    Noma
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    Hi,

    My husband and I have not been happy together for some time now. We have two children, a 3 yo and 7 month old. I have a physical disability so I cannot lift them in and out the bath and while I can look after the fine during the day in my own, it is tiring.
    If I were to spilt with my husband I would probably have to ask him to continue to come over in the evening after work the help with dinner, bath and bed routines, and sometime at the weekends as three straight days (son is in nursery mon-thurs) would be too much for me.
    so I don’t really see how our lives would look any different, other than he wouldn’t be here at night/sleeping in the lounge(!) but the baby wakes min 3 times a night the 3yo, so part of me sees no point in splitting.

    Has anyone been in a similar situation? Would social services be able to provide regular daily support for bath times? Is this worth exploring?

    thanks

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    Victoria
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    I have MS and have been a lone parent doing 100% childcare since my daughter was 3 years and 2.5 months old. My social services (Gloucestershire) were crap and when I asked Adult Social Care for extra help with funding extra hours childcare in nursery (I was trying to get work in London)  referred me to Child Protective Services instead.

    I wouldn’t at that age disabled or not, remember you are both overtired with the baby and things will improve.

    He might not be supportive with childcare / might use your disability against you so if you are thinking of doing so get advice first.

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