Dipping my toe in…
29 May 2019 at 11:34 am #25593
I’m not even sure why I’m here. I’ve been a single parent for years and coped up til now but I’m feeling pretty lonely atm and not sure how to keep up my momentum.
I’ve been on my own since I was 6 months pregnant with my now 12 year old. I’ve brought him up, held down a great job, retrained and got another great job but I’m here 12 years down the road still single and wondering what I do next. Instead of sitting round being glum I thought I’d pop on here (why it’s taken me this long I’ll never know!) and say hello to others in the same/similar position…so, 🙋♀️ “hi”.
Ali29 May 2019 at 1:25 pm #25594
Yep I’m the same, been single mum for 5 yrs now. Work full time and enjoy weekends with my 7 yr old daughter. Weekends when she is with daddy can be hard at times still. I am lucky to have some great mom friends for playdates but holidays can be a lonely time as usually all away with family. Thought this would be a good way to meet new friends who are in the same boat.
We are going to our first meeting on Saturday which is exciting and bit daunting, nothing to lose tho hey 👍
Linz29 May 2019 at 7:05 pm #25632
Same here, single mum for 7 years. I’ve stayed busy sorting house and job and schools and homework and all the other stuff. But now what? My son has become less dependant.
Not sure I want a relationship, I’ve got too much to lose, but more friends would definitely be good so any tips ……?29 May 2019 at 8:35 pm #25642
Welcome – This is certainly a good place to chat if nothing else! It’s a lot more recent for me, but it’s good to know that there are people in the same boat who understand.
If you’re bored, the Friday Night Social thread is pretty good, people on there most nights just chatting!
SD29 May 2019 at 10:51 pm #25654
Thanks for the warm welcome.
I think that part of the coping mechanisms is to know that you’re not alone (tho it feels like it at times) and that it’s possible muddle through. 12 yrs on and I still get those alone times so it’s nice to have that affirmation that there are others out there too. I’m a good way down the road now and still step back and wonder how I did the early years so I hope I can support anyone who is panicking about how they will cope (you will and you do).
liking the idea of the Friday night social SD. Thanks for the tip. Son is glued to xbox most nights and get mighty bored on my own.
Ali30 May 2019 at 3:03 am #25663
Hi, same here most nights after the usual work , taxi for my near 13 to her dance practice, dinner dog walk. Life seems a little lonely now that my daughter is getting more independant , would be really goid to meet, chat with people in the same persition .
Yve31 May 2019 at 7:20 am #25722
I new on here and like you thought why ! Ive been feeling what does the future hold loke you ive been separated from my daughters father for years shes now 12, work hard long hrs and now shes getting more independant i m not sure what direction to go so you are not alone. Anyway wanted to say hi. ☺31 May 2019 at 5:14 pm #25784
Its always good to know that there are others in the same position (in the nicest possible sense!).
I really have no idea why it took me so long as I’ve known about Gingerbread for years. I think I was just in shock and coping with a new-born on my own for me the first 12 years and now he’s getting older I’m feeling a little lonely and not needed. Pre-empty nest syndrome!!!
Ali x31 May 2019 at 8:18 pm #25793
Yes it does get very loney i have a great dog to cuddle up to lol my girl only now seems to need me when she wants something she is a real daddies girl and plays one against the other it hurts but girls ar near 13 are hard work and hard on their mums i need a life lol.. as ive onlumy just joined i really hope it helps us all