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    P271
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    Has anyone had a difficult evening with a soon to be ex? I get reeled back in and end up defending myself when I should just say nothing. Would love to know if anyone else feels like this x

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    JuneB
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    Yes, I hear you. It’s so difficult to try and not get involved and defensive back when reeled in and buttons are pressed. I find chanting in my head ‘don’t react’ helps ( most the time) and just being in ‘ Spectator mode’ helps. I think I’ve learnt so much more from being able to not react and see more.of the behaviours which has been good. Feel so great when I don’t get affected emotionally too… And not so tired and overwhelmed..x

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    P271
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    Thank you. I have not slept much and I am annoyed at myself for rising to the bait again you know. I am constantly being blamed for his affair and my treatment of him since then (I don’t treat him badly but I don’t interact at all if I can avoid it). It is now my fault that his relationship with his children is not great. It is a lot to put on one person who is still heart broken.your advice makes good sense tho and I will definitely try it!!

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