Hi
I had this battle when my eldest two were younger. However, my ex husband and I had to attend a parenting course as part of agreement with courts. I attended this 6 week course. My ex husband did not attend even though we had different venues.
What I learnt in regard to the problems you’re having is to live your life. However, difficult it is to be seen as the strict, mean parent children do respond better with clear boundaries. Also as they get older they will more likely respect you more for this too.
Every person I was on the course with had this issue. You’re not alone.
We all supported each other and main thing was set your boundaries adapt for school hols, wkends etc and show kids your not unreasonable etc and just stick to it.
Do not get into at dad’s this at dad’s that.
Just be clear and say for example this is our home and what happenes here is for us to all do our best and what happens at your dad’s is between you and dad. Unless really out there and concerns obvs.
The less you look / discuss life at their dad’s the better your life becomes.
It worked for me. I had moments I’d want to ring their dad screaming but I bit my tongue and focused and my time and our space we shared together and let their dad get on with it.
Good luck đź‘Ť
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