Dealing with the fact my son wants to make contact with his father

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    Catkins
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    My son decided 11 years ago to not have contact with his father for valid reasons, he was 5 at the time and has been adimant all along that he didnt want any contact at all even though I tried to keep the relationship going.

    He has now been given an amazing opportunity in regards to his education, and realises that this will add financial issues to me as I am and have been paying a joint mortgage and cleading joint debts soley for the past 11 years. He wants to make contact with his father to ask for financial support to fund his course (which is very asulr of him).

    I am concerned about this for numerous reasons:

    1. My son will be hurt his father pays maintenance but not contributed towards the joint mortgage, therefore I have a feeling he will not support my son in anyway

    2. I have lost one son due to his brainwashing skills and I am worried I will lose my other son too

    3. I will

    loae the close relationship I have with my son ( not meaning to sound selfish)

    I have always had a close, open relationship with my kids and have always said if the wanted to try and re unite a relationship with their dad that I would support them. Their father has not made any contact with them or been to any parents evening. I feel a rollercoaster of emotions. Any suggestions please?

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    steve3334
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    hi,

    I think it depends on how the father feels. If your child reaches out to him after all these years, he might get a nasty reaction. or his father might be happy about it.

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