We divorce mostly to be happy again. I was unhappy for a long time and finally found the courage to leave my ex in 2017. He abused me emotionally and financially not necessarily physically. He is so bitter about our split up (I was essentially funding his life) that despite being with a new partner, having a new house etc, he still spends a lot of his time trying to have revenge on me. He is a constant feature in my life and I clearly want to turn a page on that. We can only communicate via email and it is mostly nasty messages from him. I share care with him although it pains me to – but I thought it right from an equality point of view. So many Dad’s get denied the right level of access. But at the same time I worry about the negative affect he has on them, mostly from a financial, health (lack of positive rolemodelling) and negative input re me.
What tactics have others used to address these dynamics? My new partner is bored hearing about him I am sure…
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