23 June 2018 at 7:03 am #12518
I was just wondering does this sight have a dating part to it? I am not keen on using online dating as when you have children it is a completely different relationship that you can have from the start it’s finding a man that accepts you have responsibilities and until you have been together for a while it will only be that 1 evening in the week and every other weekend scenario which I’m sure most people on here understand! I have been seperated 16 months in total and divorced 7 months of them and I now feel ready was just wondering what people on this group have tried other than online dating it’s so much harder now.23 June 2018 at 10:31 am #12520
The first few months are always going to be difficult as I obviously won’t introduce a new partner to my children straight away my problem is alot of my friends are married with children or have boyfriends and don’t want to go out on the weekends definetly harder now when I met my ex i was 19 so obviously you can go to pubs and whatever all the time and there was only myself to think of but nevermind I’m sure if it’s meant to be I will meet someone.23 June 2018 at 1:49 pm #12522
My children are 8 and 12 I work 3 morning and 1 afternoon so yes I have a few hours to do things like that before school pick up and I also get 1 day off in the week.23 June 2018 at 9:55 pm #12530
I have a little girl and I have gone on a few dates and joined an online one too which was fun
I just did it to get my confidence back and it worked. There are people who like to criticise you should concentrate on your kids and this and that. I am a working mum with an autistic child so every day is a big battle. Although I’m busy I do get lonely too
Good luck with dating and there are online ones for single parents too. Just have an open mind and have fun24 June 2018 at 11:20 am #12537
It is difficult to date as a single parent. I hate dating sites although some people swear by them. I find it’s harder as I get older as my friends are all in couples now and don’t like going out. Meeting new people used to be easy. I’d just go out at the weekend with my friends and have a laugh and enjoy myself. Now I don’t have anyone to go out with, it’s harder.
It’s not impossible. It just requires a lot more effort. You need to get a social life with other single people first and then hopefully you’ll meet someone. I say you need to but I need to do this too!
As a single parent, we have a long list of priorities and responsibilities so our social lives take a back seat. Life used to revolve around whether that hot guy would text me back but now it’s about making sure my daughter has done her homework, creating a costume for her drama shows, making sure the bills are paid, trying to get a job that pays enough to increase my quality of life and making other important decisions on my own. Romantic relationships are right at the bottom of my list and then I wonder why I’m still single!24 June 2018 at 6:56 pm #12541
Same my friends don’t want to go out might have a cup of tea round there house now and again or something like that but just don’t really go anywhere to meet people and work with men quite abit younger than me so difficult all round24 June 2018 at 8:53 pm #12548
There is a dating app, so easy to use and on your phone, called Bumble which is aimed at women, as ladies have the first move option, so allows you to do lots of screening!
I tried singlewithkids.co.uk, but it’s been worse than useless for me, it might be different for ladies.
I know quite few friends who have got hooked up through Amtch.com which seems one of the best.
Hope that helps…
Stewart24 June 2018 at 8:56 pm #12549
Yes thank you I just feel abit weiry of using dating sights like seeing people in person rather than hiding behind a screen and unfortunately there not always genuine25 June 2018 at 9:36 am #12558
Thanks for the info Stewart67! Will check Bumble and Singlewith kids out 🙂25 June 2018 at 9:49 pm #12662
Try meet up groups26 June 2018 at 3:20 pm #12699
<span style=”background-color: #f5f5f5;”><span style=”color: #707070; font-family: Lato, sans-serif;”>“Decent, considerate, educated father of two beautiful kids would love to hear from a West Midlands lady that is similar.” Good afternoon. I have been a single dad now for almost two years, and have yet to meet a new partner. My work schedule is now restricted and “getting out there” seems to be an uphill struggle. My boy is 16 and now very independant. My wonderful daughter is 7, and great fun. Is there a mum out there that would like to hook up for coffee and chat, and see what’s what?</span></span>
<span style=”background-color: #f5f5f5;”><span style=”color: #707070; font-family: Lato, sans-serif;”> </span></span>28 June 2018 at 12:18 pm #12775
I want to date but I don’t really like the idea of websites and I can’t travel far easily now. It is difficult to find the time as I am the only carer for my daughter and don’t really like to ask people to babysit just for going out socially. My friend got me back in touch with the last guy who I’d met before and he was great with my daughter who’s 2 but he didn’t want commitment. Like Sherima I like meetup groups but I haven’t been on since my daughter. Does anyone know how to search on there for family events you can take kids to? I might also check with a couple of friends if they know of anyone! Good luck
Sarah x28 June 2018 at 8:10 pm #12811
I took the first step and joined a dating sight there are alot of weirdos on them but I’ve also had some really nice conversations on it too so who knows worth a try. If I feel it’s not for me in a while I’ll delete it but for now I’m giving it a try.28 June 2018 at 9:04 pm #12812
I have been on loads of walking ones which is quite interesting as people walk and talk at the same time.
There is nothing wrong with asking someone to babysit if you want to date . You should not be too hard on yourself because there are lots of judgemental people out there saying you should concentrate on your children blah blah . I ve been on sites andmeet ups and it gave me my confidence back. I have left my child to go out for dinner and my date has even paid the nanny so I was not out of pocket.12 October 2019 at 7:57 pm #31502
My dad died when I was 18 and I remember my brothers and I were really against mum meeting anyone else, I don’t think there was any real logical reason for it, the thought of it just seemed weird. We all came to realise though that mum deserved to be happy again, she eventually met someone who she dated for 18 years until her death and we all accepted the bloke.
I don’t think you should be hiding it from your son, perhaps he just needs to understand that you want to be happy and that any future relationship will not change anything where your son is concerned.