Date or devote 100% to kids?
31 August 2019 at 12:20 pm #29850
Cami_HParticipant8 September 2019 at 9:19 pm #30169
There is no right or wrong answer. In my case it has just occured to me that I am a person who doesn’t really like change. Dating weighs me down emotionally and mentally. Having said that I do get invited to social gatherings regularly which I like. Mostly I put my energies into work, pottering around at home and various hobbies. I don’t like online dating as I think its nice to be asked out. I have been single now for 6 months and I can honestly say I’ve never felt better 😀👍9 September 2019 at 10:46 am #30173
I like the idea of one day meeting someone and being in a relationship again, but have no idea how that would happen right now.
I’ve been on my own for 5 years since my son was born and the only time I really have not with my son is when I am at work. I don’t really get to socialise, partly it’s the cost of childcare, partly it’s that my son doesn’t like me to be away from him, and partly it is that I am very tired.10 September 2019 at 10:43 pm #30221
i’ve been following this with some interest and it’s really encouraging to see that i’m not the only one thinking about this.
I’ve been single now for two years after my husband had an affair and walked out on me and our daughter. It’s been pretty tough because of his erratic behaviour towards our daughter but I’m now enjoying the freedom that being single gives me. I have very little social life as my daughter is with me the vast majority of the time but i work and try to use the free time that I do get to get out a bit, get exercise, do park run etc but am also quite content just to crash in front of the telly by myself.
I’ve been asked by a few people if i’m dating again and been looked at like a complete freak when i’ve said no. I think to some people being single and happy is just such a foreign concept they can’t get their heads round it!
My ex made such a monumental ***** up of things by moving straight in with the mother of some of my daughter’s friends and has done some truelly thoughtless things – repeatedly letting our daughter down when she was due to see him, picking up his step children from school and leaving our daughter sobbing in the playground as he was ‘too busy’ to see her that day, providing a bed for the other children but expecting her to sleep on the sofa, forgetting to tell her he had got married but sticking it on Facebook, – we have an almost weekly example of his utter stupidity – that she now feels totally rejected by him and is having counselling as a result.
We are such a close, tight little unit now that i’m not sure where someone else would fit and I don’t want her to feel that anyone, ever will be as important to me as she is. I’m very aware that at the moment, she needs me more than I need a relationship and that it won’t be amazingly long before she is more interested in her friends than me and I will then have a bit more free time to do things for myself and maybe meet someone then.11 September 2019 at 6:43 am #30226
@aj25 I’m really sorry to hear how appallingly your ex husband has behaved, especially to his own daughter.
My children have been repeatedly let down by their father in the past to now recently not even seeing him at all (which is actually for the best)
I agree that these experiences bring you closer together.
I do sometimes feel torn with the need to feel the closeness of a romantic relationship and the protectiveness I feel over my children. Considering what a rocky upbringing they have already had, their needs come first.