I separated from my 2yr old twins dad about 3months ago. He’s making my life miserable, he is using the babies as a weapon against me. Whenever I do not agree to a proposal about something(usually the house) he threatens full custody or 50/50 custody. I have never stopped him from seeing the children, in fact I bend over backwards to ensure he does see them. He refuses to commit to times and days(he says he should be able to see his children when he wants)the reason we split is because he seemed to have time for everyone else. He never looks after the children by himself, he bullied my teenage children awfully to the point the eldest is move to another country(he will quite happily say that, he makes no secret of it)he has a vicious tongue and a temper. 2wks ago he kicked the front door on 2 consecutive days, made threats to kick it in, kick my car in and take the children. I’m always told I have to ‘toe the line’ theres always consequences. My older children are prepared to give statements about what he has been like. My question is what is the chances of him getting 50/50? I cant live with the threats anymore. I never intend on standing in his way of having a relationship with his children, I just truly believe they would be better living with me, also one of the twins has sensory issues(waiting on peds confirmation of autism) he thrives on routine, his dad thinks I’m making it up and doesn’t do anything to help. I chase up all the appointments, take him to them, I do flash cards with him and I’ve learnt basic mackaton. His dad cant cope with his tantrums. Sorry for the long post
Thank you for sharing your experience here on our forum. This seems like you are going through a particularly tough time. I would suggest that the National Domestic Violence helpline would be able to help you to explore your situation. Here are their details and I wish you all the best for the future.
First thing is report it to the police. He is abusive. You could get a non molestation order and child arrangements order to make a fixed plan for contact. He will threaten you with 50/50 or full custody. It’s a classic tactic. But just because he says it, doesn’t mean it will actually happen. I am writing these words which have been passed to me by numerous professionals recently, but it is hard to believe them when it’s a risk of your own kids being taken off you, I know x