Currently separating.

[eclaire]

I am new to this site so I’m finding it difficult to open up and explain myself.

I am currently separating from my partner of 7 years. We have lived together for 3 and a half years and my 11 year old son lives with us.

It is my decision to end things and he still wants to try to make things work. I’ve been unhappy for about 3 years and nothing has worked or changed so I have taken the decision to move out to my Mum’s with my son. We jointly own the house so even though I would have ideally wanted to stay there to minimalise disruption to my son’s life, I couldn’t make my partner leave and I felt too guilty anyway. My friends think that he is being selfish by not considering what is better for my son but it’s something that I just haven’t got the strength to fight.

Has anyone has experience of being bought out of a mortgage? This is what he wants to do. As a couple we owed his Dad £20k for a new kitchen so this has seemed to complicate things.

I am so upset and confused and I could just do with an unbiased opinion.

If anyone has read to this point then it is a miracle and I’d like to say thank you 🙂

[eclaire]

Hi Anonymous,

I’m sorry but im not totally sure I understand your whole message!

I will definitely be getting 3 valuations.

What am I entitled to in this situation?

Thank you.

• This reply was modified 1 year ago by Jordan Gingerbead.

[eclaire]

I see!

There were no formal agreements, we were saving in our own savings accounts then when we had enough we would have paid him back.

Thank you.

[eclaire]

Thank you. Do you have any advice on whether I should see a solicitor or would a mediator be able to sort out the financial side of him taking on the mortgage and buying me out?

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