I’m straight but wanted to reply because having been on the forum a long time now wanted to assure you there have been a few threads by people in a similar situation to you, as this question’s been asked quite a few times on the forum.
Bottom line though you shouldn’t have to ask whether it’s ok to ask that kind of question on here or anywhere else, in fact I’m not sure it’s even legal for someone to respond negatively, it’s 2020 not 1970.
Hope someone able to relate to you responds with similar support.