3 March 2021 at 4:03 am #50520
My ex has 2 children to a ex wife and for the past 18 years has paid the same amount to her via a private family agreement made in court when they divorced.
I seperated from him in December 20 and went through CSA two week ago. They came back with a calculation this evening which was low considering what he earns.
The question is can i appeal as it seems CSA have worked it out as if he is paying his ex via CSA which he is not.
He earns 55000 a year.
I get 250 each month.
He pays his ex 300 a month and has done for the past 18 years. He recently let this slip on a text during a nassassist rage rant as i had gone though CSA.
He drives a new MB, lives in a £1000pcm rented house. Ect ect.
Can i appeal on the basis of his lifestyle.and to ask.them to consider his finances and look into this closer. Its seems unfair.and im fuming about it.
My son has refused any contact with his ‘the dad” since 2nd Feb 2021. My lad is 13 and Gillick competent? In feb 20 his father was verbally abusive to him when in his care which my son recorded on his phone. My son has refused to see him again… at this time anyway. Thats another battle. But i had to.leave my job to.care for him full time as i worked away 2 nights a week.
His father has nassasistic traits and Ive been planning my escape for 3 years. Out of the 14 years together, i only lived with him for 5 years. I didnt apply to the CSA when not livi g togather in the past as i was manipulated into feeling i was unfair ect ect i was paid.more than him.
I refuse to ruminate on the emotional abuse. Its taken away to.much of mine and.my sons time and im not leaving as a victim after this toxic 5 years. The manipulation as abuse will not define my future and i wont let it impact on my son either.
. Ive done lots of reseach into these NPD types, the trauma bonds, the gas lighting, triangation and his supply is stitched off.
I have evey right to fight for my sons CSA and what seems fair and just. Any help3 March 2021 at 12:44 pm #50578
he would have told CMS that he has other children living with him, so they reduce maintenance for that. also he may be earning through a limited company or self-employed. able to control his income more. If he’s paying maintenance to another ex, then they take that into account.
As far as I know the option about income inconsistent with lifestyle is no longer there. what you can do is ask CMS for a mandatory reconsideration if you think he earns a lot more and should be paying more.3 March 2021 at 5:52 pm #50594
I feel the frustration you are experiencing, I’ve had many of Issues with my Ex regarding paying for his child, Sometimes the outcomes of CSA do seem unfair , when you consider the price of things. CSA are normality correct in the decisions they make. If you feel like you should be entitled to more than, do what you think is best.
Recently I had review of f CSA and i didn’t agree with the outcome, specially knowing that information , that my Ex provided them wasn’t honested, He claimed he had lost his Job, which if it was True, I would have been more than willing to sit down and discuss with him, if he would have contacted me , which he didn’t . Last year i learnt that he had set his own business of a car valeting service on the side of his full time employment which i didn’t mind, as i was still receiving payment each month, but when i received the review letter from CSA, I was annoyed that he could claim that he had lost his job, which maybe be true but it doesn’t justify the fact that his car valeting service, Is still a growing business and from the looks of his social business page, He now does this full time, charging £40-£100 per car and CSA rewarded my child with £7.00 per week.
I was going to fight the matter but i have decided not to as i think, i would cause myself more stress from fighting it and would still come out no better off . you have to do what’s best for you.