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    Marie3
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    I really need some help. My ex husband had an affair at while pregnant he walked out the day after she was born and spent the next two years hardly seeing her and I incurred to what I believe emotional abuse, it’s very difficult to word or explain. I allowed him to walk in and out when she was a baby and he continued to lie about his whereabouts. He went 8 months without seeing her and we found out through his statements that he was in the country even though he told me he was at work abroad. He ignores me in my daughters presence, and manipulates and puts me down. A few moths ago, he requested that he start taking her abroad to experience the world, and he has a new life he wanted her to be part off,  Mediation failed as the morning of our first appointment he started sending horrible texts then forwarding them to his girlfriend ( attaching me so im aware) I broke down and cancelled as how can I be expected to talk about access to her when all this is going off. He asked for his court form to allow him to access court. I felt it was all planned. Since then he told me he would re apply for mediation and I havent heard a thing. I was frightened by the solicitors to give him unspervised access. First afternoon he showed up ( no communication) he took her to what I thought was a four hour beach trip. He didnt turn up or text me and 5 past I text he said he was around the corner he arrived 20 minutes later. He didn’t say a word when he dropped her off. My daughter looked spaced and didnt say anything to me, I put her to bed and cried my eyes out. I felt awful and guilty. The next day she told me daddy took her to her new home and introduced her to her new home (4 years of telling her he worked abroad, it was his first access) Then she also told me daddy wouldn’t let me come home when I asked. She started having nightmares and became detached. It was so horrible. I contacted my solicitor and a child psychologist who told me her needs need to come first and perhaps supervise. So his last 4 Saturdays I have been to protect my daughter, this weekend I received the court order. It reeds that I have denied him all these years, and just lies. What can I do to protect her, shes nearly 5 just starting school. It cant be ok for a man to take her away who has never fathered her, shes only ever been with me and never spent a night away. He doesn’t communicate or care to just wants to take her away and have his own life. He works abroad for 2 months and only in country 2-3 weeks for tax reasons. Is there any orders that I can ask for? I think it’s the emotional damage that worries me. I haven’t really got enough for solicitors but cant get funding. I have 14 days to reply but no idea how. Any help would be so much appreciated.

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    ekeaku
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    I am so sorry to hear this and you are in my thoughts and prayers. I don’ t know what to advise other than when I was going through similar I could only afford an hour’s consultation with a solicitor and that hour gave me lots of helpful info. Ultimately i had to go to court and pay for a child order which states when both patents can have the children and under what conditiins. This cost me approx £250. Also Cafcass got involved to advice court on what was best for children. Good luck x

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    ekeaku
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    Also document everything. Date he had her, time he briught her back what your dauggter said etc

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