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    oneparent
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    So we newly court order. There bit confusion; during term times we have to two week schedule ehrrr it different set day each week. After Christmas holidays I’m guessing you would start on week one or am I wrong ?

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    *deleted user*
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    Yes week one that makes sense.

    What is the problem with the court order?

    #64548 Report

    oneparent
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    The order we got hard to understand in my eyes. It’d not straight forward. We have 2 week schedule for school term times then 4 night 3 night for school holidays etc. The other parent thinks we continue on from prior to school holidays, I’m under impression after any school holiday you start on week one. It’s don’t state continuation  in the order .

    #64549 Report

    *deleted user*
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    Oh gosh, that is difficult if there is a disagreement about that.

    I would say you just have to negotiate I’m afraid.

    Even a court order has to take into account reasonableness as it were. Visitation and contact sometimes has to be varied due to illness etc especially in covid.

    No judge would be please if you went back to court about that.

    #64551 Report

    oneparent
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    I’m afraid that ain’t going to work with narrascist control people their way or the  high way. They are claiming it state order continues  yet it doesn’t.  Just abit common sense really.

    #64552 Report

    *deleted user*
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    Oh. Yes, I have experience of that in shed loads.

    In that case I would call their bluff and set boundaries that you feel are in the best interests of yourself and your child. After that try the grey rock technique.

    If the other parent wants to threaten to take you to court on something like that you just prepare yourself to explain to the judge how and why you are making your decision.

    My guess is that they won’t take you to court.

     

    #64574 Report

    steve3334
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    hi, difficult to know. are you able to post the wording of the order, where the problem is? I am guessing other parent is taking advantage if the order is written in a vague way.

    #64587 Report

    oneparent
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    I doubt it as they demanded court order yet it was me to apply for court order ha.

    Well that it Steve. During School term times we have set days over a 2 week schedule . Labelled as week 1 and week 2. There no where in order stating its roll over from week before school holidays nor does it state you start from week 1 or 2 when they start back in school. Hence I thought common sense xome in to play haha.

    They have done this as they done year schedule on how they think order reads yet without consulting the other parent.  Yet we see mistakes on it but we wrong. Haha So basically being told what times you can see children etc.  It’s all one sided yet they think that co parenting.

    #64588 Report

    *deleted user*
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    With some people it is not possible to ‘co-parent’. Nowadays it is called ‘parallel parenting’. Meaning that if the other person is unhelpful, entirely uncooperative or a narcissist then you just have to use your own judement as a parent and try not to let them mess up your child’s future.

    Just try to be practical about it.

    Even with court orders they are not set in stone unless child is repeatedly not returned or something, in which case you would contact the police. But for practical reasons even if the wording is full of legal jargon, it seems like common sense to me – what is meant with the order. What you want is to minimise any arguments so there again, grey rock might be the way to go. Not an easy situation.

    #64600 Report

    oneparent
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    I hear you there. We have basically live with both parents order 5050 more less. Yet we never get told bout  doctor or consultant appointments any serious problems. Ie the one child broke his arm. I find out days later yet the same day he hospital they can ring police for harassment. Bare on mind they ain’t entertained no the false accusations haha

    #64602 Report

    *deleted user*
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    No, I don’t believe they can ring police for harrassment in that situation.

    Basically parents should be contactable in a health emergency. Although has to be said this is not always the case. But I personally wouldn’t think that was funny if they weren’t. Safety of the child is paramount.

     

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