Me and my husband separated nearly 3 years ago now. We have 3 sons aged 23, 18 and 8.
We both lived in a council property where we have been joint tenants for over 20 years and were both given the same advice by our housing officer and other official people that we both have equal rights to the property and neither one of us has to leave but we can take it to court to sort out, so therefore my husband refused to leave as did I at the time but he started making life very uncomfortable for me at home. I didn’t want to drag it through court at the time as already the breakup was hard on my sons without chucking their father out on the streets as well but after nearly 2 years I couldn’t take anymore so I upped and left with my 8 year old son and moved to a friends house in another area where I was brought up and to be near my sister.
my husband comes across that he cares and wants to help us but he knows damn well that privately renting in my area is expensive and very difficult to do on housing benefit but he still refuses to give up the house and I refuse to remove my name off the tenancy. He’s been bugging me about removing my name so he can ‘move on’ but I don’t see why he should have a massive 3/4 bedroom house (as my eldest son is practically moved out now) whilst I struggle trying to rent with my 8 year old and have nearly lost my 18 year old now.
my 18 year old is now getting in with the wrong gang and going off the rails and his dad is leaving him to it. I so desperately want to help him but need to be living back there to have complete control over him and help him so am now considering going to court to see what a judge says about it. If the judge decides to remove my name then at least I’m not making myself intentionally homeless and can possibly join the housing register where I am but that won’t help me to help my son but was wondering if anyone on here has been through this and is it stressful and worth it?
Sorry for the long story but any advice would be much appreciated
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